【非文青每周一文】Marriage--欢迎拍砖

争取每周写一小篇

Upon reading Carpediem’s essay on how his marriage took away his loneliness, I thought I could write something down from a woman’s perspective, in particular about what changes my marriage has brought me,  to PK with Carpediem(haha), and to commemorate my fifth wedding anniversary as well. Here we go:

 

Yesterday we went to a party in a big mansion, which was rented for six weeks by two of my hu*****and’s classmates in the summer seminar at USC. The mansion, boasting a 7,000-square-foot living space and a grotto in the backyard, is by far the largest and most luxurious house I have ever been to. Besides, it is in a prime central LA location. I was consumed by envy when I first set my eyes on the mansion. On the way home, we drove by USC and saw my old neighborhood. There has not been much change around campus since I left five years ago. However, comparing with myself five years ago, I am now a changed person. After reflecting on these changes, I don't covet what I don't have, but feel grateful for what I do have. Therefore, I let go of my envy.

On worldly issues, my marriage put me on a fast track to getting a green card, becoming a citizen and buying a house. Our household size doubled in the last three years. I could no longer just copy my tax return form from the previous year as the family kept expanding. But more importantly, my habits and behavior have changed:

I no longer watch “Desperate Housewives”; I've become one, only less desperate, and less glamorous.

I no longer mouth along Annie Lennox’s “No more I love you's”; I sing along and try to videotape my daughter’s version of “I love you, you love me, we are a happy family”.

I no longer play online poker; I try hard to stop my son from putting poker chips into his mouth.

I no longer scream “TGIF”, relishing the prospect of a weekend; I dread it and shout “TGIM” when it’s over.

I no longer feel homesick; I have a place that I can call home,though working from home sometimes makes me sick of home.

Do I regret these changes? Do I want to go back to five years ago? Not in a million years. Not even if you give me a 7000-square-foot mansion! Because:

I no longer wonder what unconditional love is; I am giving it.

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• Sofa. Looking forward to many more of your "an article per week -EnLearner- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/07/2011 postreply 16:42:36

• Thanks, Prof. Yu! I will try to be a 文学青年, haha. -非文学青年- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/07/2011 postreply 16:44:34

• Way to go! I may call you Prof. Wen then. -EnLearner- ♀ (129 bytes) () 08/07/2011 postreply 17:03:28

• great piece of writing! My suggestions... -同学小薇- ♀ (1390 bytes) () 08/07/2011 postreply 17:04:23

• Thanks a lot! see my response. -非文学青年- ♀ (2289 bytes) () 08/07/2011 postreply 17:12:50

• The first one is changed to this: -非文学青年- ♀ (267 bytes) () 08/07/2011 postreply 17:22:03

• another one... -同学小薇- ♀ (287 bytes) () 08/07/2011 postreply 18:58:54

• Good catch! Thanks! -非文学青年- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/08/2011 postreply 00:39:37

• Another great piece! I like it! -NewVoice- ♀ (1187 bytes) () 08/07/2011 postreply 17:29:28

• Sorry. Should be "comparing myself five years ago to now, -NewVoice- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/07/2011 postreply 17:33:21

• thanks, sis! all accepted! -非文学青年- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/07/2011 postreply 17:41:09

• while correcting them, I had to reject two, :) -非文学青年- ♀ (168 bytes) () 08/07/2011 postreply 17:46:09

• I have one more correction: -NewVoice- ♀ (220 bytes) () 08/07/2011 postreply 18:58:51

• nod, nod. thanks, sis! -非文学青年- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/07/2011 postreply 19:27:55

• Love being married~~I totally appreciate the overflowing joy fro -千与.千寻- ♀ (1261 bytes) () 08/07/2011 postreply 17:34:44

• 文青好文，惹的我也跟着练练写作；以后你多写，我多跟～ -千与.千寻- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/07/2011 postreply 17:37:04

• want bricks? I will save a space here and give them to you tonig -非文学青年- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/07/2011 postreply 17:49:09

• Sure!!! -千与.千寻- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/07/2011 postreply 17:50:43

• A happy marriage is that I cannot imagine spending the rest of m -beautifulwind- ♀ (71 bytes) () 08/07/2011 postreply 20:18:11

• Great writing as always! like this one: -beautifulwind- ♀ (67 bytes) () 08/07/2011 postreply 17:55:55

• square--i know it's a typo -cha-cha- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/07/2011 postreply 18:20:23

• yes,typo. I did not notice it.前后呼应很好。 -beautifulwind- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/07/2011 postreply 18:23:25

• 写得真好。你这强项越练越强啊。以后准备每周写什么题材啊？ -cha-cha- ♀ (316 bytes) () 08/07/2011 postreply 18:26:42

• 好主意，赞成呀～ -千与.千寻- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/07/2011 postreply 18:39:31

• "where" seems to be incorrect, though. -非文学青年- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/07/2011 postreply 19:36:22

• 顶MM流畅好文，特喜欢最后一句~ -lilac09- ♀ (388 bytes) () 08/07/2011 postreply 19:24:56

• Thanks! -非文学青年- ♀ (81 bytes) () 08/07/2011 postreply 19:38:42

• 回复：【非文青每周一文】Marriage--欢迎拍砖 -DCH- ♂ (1744 bytes) () 08/07/2011 postreply 19:40:49

• A very nice piece of writing---forgot to add BiaoTi to my reply -DCH- ♂ (0 bytes) () 08/07/2011 postreply 19:45:21

• 谢谢DCH老兄出手！ -非文学青年- ♀ (3166 bytes) () 08/07/2011 postreply 23:27:03

• Motherhood beats all to hell -carpediem- ♂ (392 bytes) () 08/07/2011 postreply 20:19:30

• totally agree！我写的时候也觉得那里不顺，DCH也提出这个问题，我需要再想想。 -非文学青年- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/07/2011 postreply 23:28:35

• 写的好极了。我当范文读！你下次写marriage的时候别忘了提到我们俩的affair。这个对我很重要。你把我拐来拐去。我跟定你了 -i999- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/08/2011 postreply 00:16:54

• 老相好你说话逗死我了！ -非文学青年- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/08/2011 postreply 01:20:12

• 谢谢楼上所有兄弟姐妹的鲜花和砖！我还自称perfectionist呢，自己写得很sloppy。 -非文学青年- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/08/2011 postreply 01:46:04

• 写的真好！ 每周一文这主意好！ -jennea- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/08/2011 postreply 08:08:44

• 谢谢jennea！不知道能坚持多久，尽量努力！ -非文学青年- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/08/2011 postreply 09:12:06

• Qinger, Happy 5th Wedding Anniversary -紫君- ♀ (1089 bytes) () 08/08/2011 postreply 10:09:04

• 谢谢紫儿! 你总是这么心细！ -非文学青年- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/08/2011 postreply 13:51:26