some update about the divorce

来源: 绝望2010 于 2010-01-14 10:52:33 [] [旧帖] [给我悄悄话] 阅读数 : (1172 bytes)

问过法制坛了，好像这里的姐妹比较热心，而且很多人都是过来人。会比较有HAND-ON Experience

7 yrs marriage, they are in CA now. Wife is still working，but salary is
below average. There is not too many job opening for her in the city that
she is currently living in.

She can not move back to the state that she originally came from because
of the kid. (the hu*****and won't let them move)

Even though the hu*****and wants a quick divorce but he is not willing to pay the support at all. Even when the court made the order, he is still not paying. The lawyer already filed the motion and the child support would be deducted from his salary directly soon.

The hu*****and told the wife that he would not pay and he would fight with the wife until she ran out of her saving. The hu*****and that he rule the marriage/divorce and he would be the final winner.

If they have no kid, the wife won't mind that he does not pay the support. but they have kid and the wife does not have much saving, she is hopping that she would get some alimony for a few years so that she does not have to ask her kid quit the private school right away.


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• 谢谢姐妹的INPUT。我也是想找到一个Short cut -绝望2010- ♀ 给 绝望2010 发送悄悄话 (147 bytes) () 01/14/2010 postreply 10:59:45

• Short cut is to find the best lawyer, or at least better than hi -Kamioka- ♀ 给 Kamioka 发送悄悄话 Kamioka 的博客首页 (208 bytes) () 01/14/2010 postreply 11:02:47

• I know. he is waiting for me runing out my saving now -绝望2010- ♀ 给 绝望2010 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 01/14/2010 postreply 11:04:15

• you need to calculate a realistic invest and return -胡桃架子-- ♀ 给 胡桃架子- 发送悄悄话 胡桃架子- 的博客首页 (292 bytes) () 01/14/2010 postreply 11:25:50

• that's true. -Kamioka- ♀ 给 Kamioka 发送悄悄话 Kamioka 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 01/14/2010 postreply 11:28:27

• 1. he has to pay child support. -Kamioka- ♀ 给 Kamioka 发送悄悄话 Kamioka 的博客首页 (55 bytes) () 01/14/2010 postreply 11:01:13

• The child support should not be a problem. -绝望2010- ♀ 给 绝望2010 发送悄悄话 (467 bytes) () 01/14/2010 postreply 11:08:02

• most likely you will be stripped out by the lawyer, if not in de -Kamioka- ♀ 给 Kamioka 发送悄悄话 Kamioka 的博客首页 (290 bytes) () 01/14/2010 postreply 11:12:05

• 现实真的很残酷.老是听说在美国离婚会让男的变穷。 -绝望2010- ♀ 给 绝望2010 发送悄悄话 (94 bytes) () 01/14/2010 postreply 11:18:04

• 孩子一个月的学费都是$2000 了 -绝望2010- ♀ 给 绝望2010 发送悄悄话 (74 bytes) () 01/14/2010 postreply 11:19:55

• life will be different... accept the change, and planning accord -胡桃架子-- ♀ 给 胡桃架子- 发送悄悄话 胡桃架子- 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 01/14/2010 postreply 11:21:57

• 我建议你还是坐下来和你老公好好谈谈吧，既然硬的不行了，那就用软的试试， -知福惜福- ♀ 给 知福惜福 发送悄悄话 知福惜福 的博客首页 (326 bytes) () 01/14/2010 postreply 11:25:20

• I tried. he does not care. he asks me to send the kid to pub -绝望2010- ♀ 给 绝望2010 发送悄悄话 (492 bytes) () 01/14/2010 postreply 11:41:13

• you can write in your agreement that he can't send the kid -Kamioka- ♀ 给 Kamioka 发送悄悄话 Kamioka 的博客首页 (36 bytes) () 01/14/2010 postreply 11:43:19

• 那就搞joint,你50%他50%。我不了解离婚法，但是据我所知他就算得到了full custody, 没你同意，他也别想 -知福惜福- ♀ 给 知福惜福 发送悄悄话 知福惜福 的博客首页 (302 bytes) () 01/14/2010 postreply 11:47:35

• 在美国离婚会让男的变穷。but it's not better for wife either -Kamioka- ♀ 给 Kamioka 发送悄悄话 Kamioka 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 01/14/2010 postreply 11:23:28

• but 1000 means nothing to him compare to his salary -绝望2010- ♀ 给 绝望2010 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 01/14/2010 postreply 11:42:07

• 1000 is 1000. you can't ask him to be the same after divorce. -Kamioka- ♀ 给 Kamioka 发送悄悄话 Kamioka 的博客首页 (323 bytes) () 01/14/2010 postreply 11:46:39

• I think you are right, i should not think about his support anym -绝望2010- ♀ 给 绝望2010 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 01/14/2010 postreply 11:49:50

• 如果child support 不够上私校的， 就不上了， 要面对现实。 -997F7- ♀ 给 997F7 发送悄悄话 (78 bytes) () 01/14/2010 postreply 11:22:21

• 要不楼主干脆现在辞职，等离婚后再去找，怎样呢？出个馊主意，：） -知福惜福- ♀ 给 知福惜福 发送悄悄话 知福惜福 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 01/14/2010 postreply 11:27:26

• spousal support will still be limited for a 7yr marriage -Kamioka- ♀ 给 Kamioka 发送悄悄话 Kamioka 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 01/14/2010 postreply 11:29:35

• nod, would help -胡桃架子-- ♀ 给 胡桃架子- 发送悄悄话 胡桃架子- 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 01/14/2010 postreply 11:31:07

• i mean, won't help -胡桃架子-- ♀ 给 胡桃架子- 发送悄悄话 胡桃架子- 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 01/14/2010 postreply 11:32:01

• lol. good try. but if court knows that, won't do any good -绝望2010- ♀ 给 绝望2010 发送悄悄话 (9 bytes) () 01/14/2010 postreply 11:36:34

• the bottom line is, don't count on spousal support. -Kamioka- ♀ 给 Kamioka 发送悄悄话 Kamioka 的博客首页 (603 bytes) () 01/14/2010 postreply 11:41:47

• Question: if i take the money from join acct. he would -绝望2010- ♀ 给 绝望2010 发送悄悄话 (160 bytes) () 01/14/2010 postreply 11:47:00

• if you spend the money on the kid, then he can't ask you -Kamioka- ♀ 给 Kamioka 发送悄悄话 Kamioka 的博客首页 (97 bytes) () 01/14/2010 postreply 11:48:20

• 自动辞职是不算数的，layoff 可以。 -LilyWhite- ♀ 给 LilyWhite 发送悄悄话 LilyWhite 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 01/14/2010 postreply 11:43:22

• 那还不简单啊。 -知福惜福- ♀ 给 知福惜福 发送悄悄话 知福惜福 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 01/14/2010 postreply 12:02:43

• In your divorce decree you may negotiate for your ex to -bj09- ♀ 给 bj09 发送悄悄话 (111 bytes) () 01/14/2010 postreply 12:03:54

• 等我回去找找,可要有免费咨询,有个政府号码.不交child support好象要坐牢的.太过分了! -pretty_woman2- ♀ 给 pretty_woman2 发送悄悄话 pretty_woman2 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 01/14/2010 postreply 11:48:18

• 这位MM.我说话比较不客气. 既然当初宠老公,劳工现在翅膀硬了就翻脸不认人,让你如此痛苦 -沙发土豆- ♀ 给 沙发土豆 发送悄悄话 沙发土豆 的博客首页 (822 bytes) () 01/14/2010 postreply 11:49:09

• I guess 这位MM doesn't have 泼 nature, it's hard to do 泼. -5thgirl- ♀ 给 5thgirl 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 01/14/2010 postreply 11:57:28

• 谢谢你，土豆！ 你说的非常对。现在所有认识我的人都在骂我傻 -绝望2010- ♀ 给 绝望2010 发送悄悄话 (176 bytes) () 01/14/2010 postreply 11:58:01

• Is your GG Chinese? Thanks! -5thgirl- ♀ 给 5thgirl 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 01/14/2010 postreply 11:59:59

• "...he would send the kid back to china to his mom..." -realizesomething- ♂ 给 realizesomething 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 01/14/2010 postreply 12:38:14

• 真是心疼你才骂.也许今后很长时间你要和孩子一起过, 一定 -沙发土豆- ♀ 给 沙发土豆 发送悄悄话 沙发土豆 的博客首页 (169 bytes) () 01/14/2010 postreply 12:08:02

• 这位MM一定要冷静,要坚强,不要人为他能控制局面.不可能的! -pretty_woman2- ♀ 给 pretty_woman2 发送悄悄话 pretty_woman2 的博客首页 (315 bytes) () 01/14/2010 postreply 12:14:56

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