MsLeading, in your case, does the husband like the job?

Sounded like, because you focus on "辛苦付出", then the wife would feel "guilty" logically.

However, a job shouldn't just 辛苦付出 (for most well educated people), it's also a "gain"(intellectually) and a "joy" at a certain level.  If it is  "gain" and "joy" for him, would you still feel guilty for yourself?

If the job is becoming a pure 辛苦付出, maybe it's time for him to look for something else more enjoyable to do?

 

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• sorry for the bold font, can't change it back, tried. --worldance-- ♀ (0 bytes) () 03/01/2018 postreply 12:16:59

• if 一方上班不辛苦，另一方 would feel "guilty" to follow her heart? --worldance-- ♀ (0 bytes) () 03/01/2018 postreply 12:26:38

• But the stress is a mean to achieve self satisfaction --worldance-- ♀ (497 bytes) () 03/01/2018 postreply 13:00:04

• Most things i do for my family and my H because i want to --worldance-- ♀ (559 bytes) () 03/01/2018 postreply 13:59:23

• IC, free and open communication is important, take care. --worldance-- ♀ (0 bytes) () 03/01/2018 postreply 14:22:21

• 你这样想没有问题。不是所有的人都这么想的，所以就会有异议。 -禾口- ♀ (134 bytes) () 03/01/2018 postreply 12:28:01

• 那就当我们误解吧。辛苦有很多种的，不工作也可以很幸苦。 -禾口- ♀ (65 bytes) () 03/01/2018 postreply 12:41:00

• 如何帮助，不是依靠钱的？ -禾口- ♀ (0 bytes) () 03/01/2018 postreply 12:49:08

• 对方很幸苦，但是老没收获，自己在家摘果子轻松搞定，是不是对方该guilty？ -禾口- ♀ (467 bytes) () 03/01/2018 postreply 13:08:44