fall for my co worker and feel so shamed

来源: getlostmore 于 2006-11-02 18:31:25 [] [旧帖] [给我悄悄话] 阅读数 : (2143 bytes)

有一 个男同 事，已经结 婚。我也已 经结 婚。May be because his wife is second generation of Chinese, so we felt closer to each other at the beginning. 但 是后 来后 来事 情 发 展的有 些不对 劲，他有 时会偷 偷看我。我也会偷看他. Then I found out I kind of fall into him and I started to behave unnaturally. His cubic was right beside me, after he found out that we kept on checking each out and I started to behave weird, he moved to another row. After he changed his cubic, our relationship is still ok. He came to me twice every week to say hi to me but I can feel that he was neverous every time he talked to me. Because he moved away from me, so I felt a little bit shamed so从此就在也没 有主 动打给 他打过招 呼。 因 为我 的座 位在门 口，他每 次出 去都 要经 过我，每 次他都显得浑 身不自 然 。我想最 好他路 过是与他打 个招 呼，可 是又怕被他认 为我过于主 动。而 且我觉得他搬 走让我很没 有面 子。于 是关 系越来越僵，最后搞 到就 算彼 此一 个月没 有见 面，他路 过我身 边是，我也 是连个招 呼也不 打， 而 且还作 出一 副很忙得样 子。但 是有 时依 然能感 到彼 此偷 看对 方。每 次在我发 现他偷 看我之后，他都会大 声谈 论他多 么喜 欢他的妻 子。今 天早晨双 方又有 意无 意中对 视，我很 快把头扭到了一 边, 作 出一 副羞 涩状( hate myself to do this)。This afternoon, when he had a chat with a co worker beside me, he spoke very loudly“I love my wife so much, she is priceless to me” I felt so shamed after hearing he saying that, so I decided to do something. When he passed by my cubic this afternoon, I pretended nothing happened during the last couple of months and said “hi, you, you don’t talk to me anymore” Then he showed a very innocent face and said “oh, I just have been busying and I will talk to you next week”. I said” no worry, I am just kidding”. He replied back immediately” I know, me too”
I am not sure what is going on in his mind. After going through the whole thing this afternoon, I felt so shamed and felt like he never liked me. I am just a secret admire to him. And he probably thinks I am just a自 作多 情 Chinese girl. Feel so sad and desperate now. Am I just 自 作多 情 ? Is this what he really thinks I am?

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• If you still wanna stay in your current marriage, -blhw72- ♀ 给 blhw72 发送悄悄话 blhw72 的博客首页 (507 bytes) () 11/02/2006 postreply 18:55:33

• I know what I should and should not do -getlostmore- ♀ 给 getlostmore 发送悄悄话 (250 bytes) () 11/02/2006 postreply 19:00:29

• Then why bother here if u do know . -blhw72- ♀ 给 blhw72 发送悄悄话 blhw72 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 11/02/2006 postreply 19:02:18

• I felt so shamed and so want to find out -getlostmore- ♀ 给 getlostmore 发送悄悄话 (46 bytes) () 11/02/2006 postreply 19:05:34

• 回复：I know what I should and should not do -blhw72- ♀ 给 blhw72 发送悄悄话 blhw72 的博客首页 (285 bytes) () 11/02/2006 postreply 19:05:54

• I don't understand this guy. In the moring, we checked each othe -getlostmore- ♀ 给 getlostmore 发送悄悄话 (137 bytes) () 11/02/2006 postreply 19:10:10

• Stop to thinking him anymore! He is other woman's husband. -Musicat- ♀ 给 Musicat 发送悄悄话 (170 bytes) () 11/02/2006 postreply 18:59:42

• So, based on my deion of our behavior, you think he -getlostmore- ♀ 给 getlostmore 发送悄悄话 (28 bytes) () 11/02/2006 postreply 19:06:48

• If he likes you, he would hide his love towards his wife -Musicat- ♀ 给 Musicat 发送悄悄话 (152 bytes) () 11/02/2006 postreply 19:09:17

• You are right. I am so stupid. I thought -getlostmore- ♀ 给 getlostmore 发送悄悄话 (206 bytes) () 11/02/2006 postreply 19:14:03

• 别多想了,他怎么想不重要. -ClubMonaco- ♀ 给 ClubMonaco 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 11/02/2006 postreply 19:17:49

• It is dangerous if you continue this feeling. -Musicat- ♀ 给 Musicat 发送悄悄话 (226 bytes) () 11/02/2006 postreply 19:14:09

• you are humuliating yourself.女人要高傲一点男人才看得起. -ClubMonaco- ♀ 给 ClubMonaco 发送悄悄话 (14 bytes) () 11/02/2006 postreply 19:15:51

• :-( what I did to humilate myself. I have not talked to -getlostmore- ♀ 给 getlostmore 发送悄悄话 (227 bytes) () 11/02/2006 postreply 19:19:21

• 当你不在乎他的时候,你就不会这么矛难过了.他也不一定知道 -ClubMonaco- ♀ 给 ClubMonaco 发送悄悄话 (94 bytes) () 11/02/2006 postreply 19:38:52

• But i heard from many people that he complains -getlostmore- ♀ 给 getlostmore 发送悄悄话 (201 bytes) () 11/02/2006 postreply 19:24:06

• he does not like his wife because his wife does not -getlostmore- ♀ 给 getlostmore 发送悄悄话 (30 bytes) () 11/02/2006 postreply 19:33:15

• 回复：he does not like his wife because his wife does not -Musicat- ♀ 给 Musicat 发送悄悄话 (235 bytes) () 11/02/2006 postreply 19:38:18

• 他爱不爱他老婆不知道，但他不太喜欢你是真的，我认为 -MMAA- ♀ 给 MMAA 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 11/02/2006 postreply 19:58:14

• You are right. -Musicat- ♀ 给 Musicat 发送悄悄话 (111 bytes) () 11/02/2006 postreply 19:34:23

• I didn't mean to marry him. I just want to find out -getlostmore- ♀ 给 getlostmore 发送悄悄话 (287 bytes) () 11/02/2006 postreply 19:38:02

• 回复：I didn't mean to marry him. I just want to find out -Musicat- ♀ 给 Musicat 发送悄悄话 (221 bytes) () 11/02/2006 postreply 19:41:42

• Yeah.But I don't understand why does he still checking me -getlostmore- ♀ 给 getlostmore 发送悄悄话 (131 bytes) () 11/02/2006 postreply 19:46:24

• 回复：Yeah.But I don't understand why does he still checking me -Musicat- ♀ 给 Musicat 发送悄悄话 (268 bytes) () 11/02/2006 postreply 19:50:37

• Maybe, he is not a good guy, just want free lunch -gzlady- ♀ 给 gzlady 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 11/03/2006 postreply 07:01:47

• why do you care about his flirting so much? You are a -ClubMonaco- ♀ 给 ClubMonaco 发送悄悄话 (291 bytes) () 11/02/2006 postreply 19:43:19

• No, he is white. The reason that I though he liked me -getlostmore- ♀ 给 getlostmore 发送悄悄话 (191 bytes) () 11/02/2006 postreply 19:49:20

• 姐姐，你想什么呢，别瞎琢麽了，好好和劳工过日子 -米沙- ♀ 给 米沙 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 11/02/2006 postreply 19:47:03

• I will leave the project in next two weeks and so -getlostmore- ♀ 给 getlostmore 发送悄悄话 (168 bytes) () 11/02/2006 postreply 19:51:44

• 洗洗睡吧,想那么多太受罪. -ClubMonaco- ♀ 给 ClubMonaco 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 11/02/2006 postreply 19:56:17

• 就是。他没准现在正是和老婆热炕头呢。你还在受这个罪。 -Musicat- ♀ 给 Musicat 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 11/02/2006 postreply 19:58:59

• Hate myself so much. Can't fall into sleep.:-((( -getlostmore- ♀ 给 getlostmore 发送悄悄话 (81 bytes) () 11/02/2006 postreply 19:59:21

• 没事，忘了就好了。别想了，多和劳工聊聊，增进感情 -米沙- ♀ 给 米沙 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 11/02/2006 postreply 20:01:58

• 很正常。不过就是“水中月，镜中月”。可望不可及。 -Musicat- ♀ 给 Musicat 发送悄悄话 (34 bytes) () 11/02/2006 postreply 20:03:30

• I got myself into this dead circle and can't get out -getlostmore- ♀ 给 getlostmore 发送悄悄话 (198 bytes) () 11/02/2006 postreply 20:07:11

• 不就是眉来眼去了两下也值得恨自己? 喜欢一个暗示一下就叫CHEAP? -ClubMonaco- ♀ 给 ClubMonaco 发送悄悄话 (50 bytes) () 11/02/2006 postreply 20:05:09

• 你又没做什么，有什么呀，装着什么都没发生。这个男人还是不错的 -米沙- ♀ 给 米沙 发送悄悄话 (103 bytes) () 11/02/2006 postreply 19:57:30

• what shoud I do next week, should I start to say hi to -getlostmore- ♀ 给 getlostmore 发送悄悄话 (157 bytes) () 11/02/2006 postreply 20:01:45

• keep you cold face and move on -Musicat- ♀ 给 Musicat 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 11/02/2006 postreply 20:04:51

• ok. because I already said hi to him -getlostmore- ♀ 给 getlostmore 发送悄悄话 (337 bytes) () 11/02/2006 postreply 20:14:03

• a question for you, do you think about your hubby -sansemao- ♀ 给 sansemao 发送悄悄话 (625 bytes) () 11/02/2006 postreply 22:14:56

• 回复：fall for my co worker and feel so shamed -Musicat- ♀ 给 Musicat 发送悄悄话 (309 bytes) () 11/02/2006 postreply 19:27:15

• Yeah, I hide my feelings very well. -getlostmore- ♀ 给 getlostmore 发送悄悄话 (304 bytes) () 11/02/2006 postreply 19:32:37

• 真是累~~~~~ -MMAA- ♀ 给 MMAA 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 11/02/2006 postreply 20:01:40

• I think that you are thinking too much. Forget about -gzlady- ♀ 给 gzlady 发送悄悄话 (456 bytes) () 11/02/2006 postreply 20:12:17

• So happy that you have the same experience! Do you mind -getlostmore- ♀ 给 getlostmore 发送悄悄话 (148 bytes) () 11/02/2006 postreply 20:17:33

• 回复：So happy that you have the same experien -gzlady- ♀ 给 gzlady 发送悄悄话 (1130 bytes) () 11/03/2006 postreply 06:44:30

• Thanks for sharing your experience. -getlostmore- ♀ 给 getlostmore 发送悄悄话 (113 bytes) () 11/03/2006 postreply 07:03:40

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