I will appreciate your input

来源: IRISHCREAM 于 2007-12-04 19:09:29 [] [旧帖] [给我悄悄话] 阅读数 : (1210 bytes)

I met my hubby six years ago online and we have been married for five years now. He is 18 years older than me. He adores me and understands me. We are very happy together.
He lived a normal middle-class life before we met.Then his industry got hit pretty bad after 911 and he lost his job. He tried to start his own business but lost all his savings due to inexperience. He finally got back to his field but worked as a contractor in several places for about half a year. I felt that our marriage got even stronger after we were apart most of the time during this period.He finally landed a good-paying job as a formal employee this past March and I relocated with him to the west coast where the living expenses are much higher than our home state.Right before Thansgiving, he lost his job again and is back on the job market now.I think he is quite capable but many people may not perceive him to be easy to get along with and he doesn't play politics very well.I think that might be the reason that he was among the first few to be let go every time there is a laid-off.
How would you deal with situation like this? Is it normal to doubt your loved one when things like this happened more than once?

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• Yes, I would. But if you love him, that doesn't matter. -hebizhuce- ♂ 给 hebizhuce 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 12/04/2007 postreply 19:11:48

• What if I start to think that I was blindsided by my feelings? -IRISHCREAM- ♀ 给 IRISHCREAM 发送悄悄话 (30 bytes) () 12/04/2007 postreply 19:17:10

• Try to find out how other people think about him. -hebizhuce- ♂ 给 hebizhuce 发送悄悄话 (338 bytes) () 12/04/2007 postreply 19:24:14

• 对，同时也得看他的朋友们是怎么对他的。 -菲妈妈- ♀ 给 菲妈妈 发送悄悄话 菲妈妈 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 12/04/2007 postreply 19:30:16

• He is not a very social or popular person but I think -IRISHCREAM- ♀ 给 IRISHCREAM 发送悄悄话 (306 bytes) () 12/04/2007 postreply 19:33:12

• Then trust your own feelings. Help him start over again. -hebizhuce- ♂ 给 hebizhuce 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 12/04/2007 postreply 20:25:19

• 人无完人，倒霉的时候喝凉水都塞牙。 -菲妈妈- ♀ 给 菲妈妈 发送悄悄话 菲妈妈 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 12/04/2007 postreply 19:13:34

• On our wedding day, a black cat walked right across -IRISHCREAM- ♀ 给 IRISHCREAM 发送悄悄话 (170 bytes) () 12/04/2007 postreply 19:19:17

• you worry too much! maybe marrying you is the best -菲妈妈- ♀ 给 菲妈妈 发送悄悄话 菲妈妈 的博客首页 (36 bytes) () 12/04/2007 postreply 19:22:45

• that's exactly what he said to me whenever I mentioned -IRISHCREAM- ♀ 给 IRISHCREAM 发送悄悄话 (46 bytes) () 12/04/2007 postreply 19:35:29

• don't cry... it's ok to have doubts and it's normal -菲妈妈- ♀ 给 菲妈妈 发送悄悄话 菲妈妈 的博客首页 (199 bytes) () 12/04/2007 postreply 19:40:56

• We are renting an apartment in the expensive west coast -IRISHCREAM- ♀ 给 IRISHCREAM 发送悄悄话 (449 bytes) () 12/04/2007 postreply 19:26:04

• 你们俩个都有理。就看谁能说服谁了。 -菲妈妈- ♀ 给 菲妈妈 发送悄悄话 菲妈妈 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 12/04/2007 postreply 19:28:57

• we can only wait till our money ran out. -IRISHCREAM- ♀ 给 IRISHCREAM 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 12/04/2007 postreply 19:37:03

• why not sell the house or rent it out? -want-to-be-a-mom- ♀ 给 want-to-be-a-mom 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 12/04/2007 postreply 19:39:54

• we are trying but you know the market right now. -IRISHCREAM- ♀ 给 IRISHCREAM 发送悄悄话 (38 bytes) () 12/04/2007 postreply 19:41:12

• hmm, maybe he is qualified for unemployment benefit. -want-to-be-a-mom- ♀ 给 want-to-be-a-mom 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 12/04/2007 postreply 19:43:15

• thanks for your input. -IRISHCREAM- ♀ 给 IRISHCREAM 发送悄悄话 (49 bytes) () 12/04/2007 postreply 19:53:51

• or you could take out a loan from 401K or home equity. -want-to-be-a-mom- ♀ 给 want-to-be-a-mom 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 12/04/2007 postreply 19:49:30

• try not to touch your 401k though... taking a loan -菲妈妈- ♀ 给 菲妈妈 发送悄悄话 菲妈妈 的博客首页 (44 bytes) () 12/04/2007 postreply 19:56:20

• 别急，慢慢来。俺邻居也老失业以前，但现在人是 -dorota- ♀ 给 dorota 发送悄悄话 dorota 的博客首页 (88 bytes) () 12/04/2007 postreply 19:31:55

• Maybe I am a little bit negative -Gold_Digger_Goldfish- ♀ 给 Gold_Digger_Goldfish 发送悄悄话 (605 bytes) () 12/05/2007 postreply 08:58:47

• It is said newly hired are among the first round of lay off. -want-to-be-a-mom- ♀ 给 want-to-be-a-mom 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 12/04/2007 postreply 19:32:53

• I meant it has nothing to do with his personalities. -want-to-be-a-mom- ♀ 给 want-to-be-a-mom 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 12/04/2007 postreply 19:41:46

• I know what you meant.Yes, it's possible. -IRISHCREAM- ♀ 给 IRISHCREAM 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 12/04/2007 postreply 19:44:15

• People tend to be doubting during hard time, don't give up and g -want-to-be-a-mom- ♀ 给 want-to-be-a-mom 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 12/04/2007 postreply 19:54:36

• good luck! -want-to-be-a-mom- ♀ 给 want-to-be-a-mom 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 12/04/2007 postreply 19:57:52

• 如果您么俩没别的矛盾，这个时候更应该互相支持。别因为这个 -dorota- ♀ 给 dorota 发送悄悄话 dorota 的博客首页 (116 bytes) () 12/04/2007 postreply 19:58:39

• point taken. -IRISHCREAM- ♀ 给 IRISHCREAM 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 12/04/2007 postreply 20:11:44

• I will be very frustrated, but if u love each other, -xueen- ♀ 给 xueen 发送悄悄话 xueen 的博客首页 (153 bytes) () 12/05/2007 postreply 06:55:21

• Don't worry, everything will be alright. Right now,the job -gzlady- ♀ 给 gzlady 发送悄悄话 (1238 bytes) () 12/05/2007 postreply 08:54:59

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