I don't think that I am an expert of manners, and I don't even think that I know the table manner very well. However, since I am a detail oriented person, and I have learned a lot from others in this forum. So, I would like to share some of my observations of table manners with you.
1. Sitting straight while we eat is a basic requirement, which is true for both Chinese and western table manner.
2. Don't make any noise while we chew on the food that is true for both Chinese and western table manner.
3. Never open our month when we chew on food.
4. Do not let the silverware scratch the plate/bowl, since that will make terrible noise.
5. Never sucking fingers in front of others.
6. Don't use bread to dip in the sauce in our plate; I think you can do that at home in front of your hubby though.
7. Never chew on bones in front of others, if you don’t want disgust your hu*****and/wife.
8. The western table manner also require push the soup spoon away (outward) from us when eating soup.
9. When eating the appetizer, main course, desert…etc, cut a bite size of food, put it entirely into our mouth, then cut another piece, never cut all the food up.
10. When we eat soup, don't suck on the soup from our spoon, since that will make noise.
11. Teaspoon is used for stirring coffee or tea, never use it to drink coffee, I have never seen anyone did that anyway.
12. If we go to a formal dinner, there will be several forks, knives in front of you, use the outer ones of fork and knife first, then the inner ones.
13. Eating Chinese noodle soup at home, that is a challenge for me. I usually use a Chinese spoon and chopsticks, use the chopsticks to pick up some noodles into the Chinese spoon, and put them entirely into the mouth. That can avoid the noodles hanging out from our mouth.
14. Do not burp (belch) in front of others, you may do that in front of you hubby though
15. Trying to eat slowly in anything will always help too