楼主先不要与先生分享凤凰MM的文章，搞清楚你先生和出走的事

I feel that I have to tell you a real story. Please help me keep it private.
Hu*****and leaving home for a week is a tremendously serious incident. If you do not know the detailed situation in that week, and your hu*****and's feeling, and the change of his feeling in that week, you are still at a loss by this time. Your situation is actually more dangerous than before.
I have a good Chinese woman friend. She dated a Caucasian man for a long time. At certain time, she pushed that man to have a child. That man ended up moving out with another young professional Chinese woman. For several months, my friend behaved crazily. Then her man was abandoned by that young Chinese woman. He begged my friend and wanted to come back. They eventually got married, and had a child. However, in our eyes, that man behaved very strangely all the time, even now. We all feel danger in that man. It is fortunate that my friend is a super woman. We think that at this stage of her life, she needs a child much more than a man or a marriage. So there is absolutely nothing wrong in her choice.
I feel that you depend on your hu*****and's family and your hu*****and's concern on your children too much, without really understand your hu*****and as a person. Do you know what are the priority 1,2,3 in his mind? Do you know his way of compromise in life-and-death situations? Do you know his true preference and priorities in romance and friendship?
A simple test is to predict your hu*****and's response under various situations, small and big. If your hu*****and behave unexpectedly, then you do not know your hu*****and at all. Once your assumption on your hu*****and turned out to be seriously wrong, and that caused a lot of pain.You need to improve your understanding first.
Then you can talk about the most difficult part, how can you improve your situation, and what are the best alternatives if you cannot improve too much.
People in this forum are very thoughtful and very helpful. Please seek help from them.
Sincere wishes to you and your family.

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• Very thoughtful. Ding! -5thgirl- ♀ (0 bytes) () 01/14/2010 postreply 07:34:12