please be agreeable rather than being defensive

I was quite disagreeable without knowing it myself. It sounded quite offensive. This habit costed me some job opportunities and potential friendship. Anyway, finally I learned in a hard way. Now I always try to be agreeable, such as saying yes and rephrase what I heard first, then say my thinking in a more friendly way. If I have nothing nice to day, then I try to be silent.

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• typo. it should be "nice to 'say' (not day)" -AugustMom- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/23/2009 postreply 19:06:41

• 这个毛病大概年轻气盛的时候大多数人都犯过，我也一样　：） -温馨秋月- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/23/2009 postreply 19:17:58

• 是啊。不过我们总有说错话的时候，过后能意识到重犯的几率就低 -温馨秋月- ♀ (31 bytes) () 12/24/2009 postreply 07:39:12