please be agreeable rather than being defensive

来源: 2009-12-23 19:04:11 [旧帖] [给我悄悄话] 本文已被阅读:

I was quite disagreeable without knowing it myself. It sounded quite offensive. This habit costed me some job opportunities and potential friendship. Anyway, finally I learned in a hard way. Now I always try to be agreeable, such as saying yes and rephrase what I heard first, then say my thinking in a more friendly way. If I have nothing nice to day, then I try to be silent.