To 89 MM: Have You Met Any Excellent Chinese Men I know?

Thanks for sharing such a beautiful and heart-breaking story. Even a man like me wants to see that your sister has a happy ending.
As you can see from my id, I am a Chinese man, happily married to an excellent Chinese woman, living in North America with two beautiful and intelligent girls. I have many Chinese friends, all of them having happy family life. Sometime the life may appear boring to other people, as every waking hour is spent on career and children.
I grew up in central China, the self-claimed heartland of Chinese culture. Later I had college education at Beijing University. I sincerely feel that my neighbors and my classmates are excellent people. So many of my classmates, man and woman, I believe, have first-time intimate relationship with their spouse, and committed to their family ever since. Of course, I am not a nosy person, and I have no interest in knowing whether that "first time" happens before or after the wedding ceremony. But I believe my judgment on whether someone is "strict" or "casual." Their stable marriages in America and China after so many years add strong prove to my perception. That is why I am very proud of Chinese culture and Chinese people.
In my opinion, it may be difficult to find a tall, handsome, and romantic Chinese men, compared to the high standards set by American men. But faithful, responsible, and hard working Chinese men are everywhere, in China and in America. Is it possible that some Chinese-born women in America want the best of two cultures, and end up with nothing?

Just a quick post in English. Later I will post in Chinese.

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• 我姐姐's ex is probably a man as you described. -1800900- ♀ (302 bytes) () 12/07/2009 postreply 11:55:50

• BTW, 我姐姐's ex went also Bei Da. I say Hey here to -1800900- ♀ (51 bytes) () 12/07/2009 postreply 12:13:47

• Yes, it is very likely.... However -OregonRain- ♀ (551 bytes) () 12/07/2009 postreply 11:58:42

• 你怎么可以菜做得那么好，话说得那么幼稚, 特打击我心目中的完美形象。 -忍不住说几句吧- ♀ (129 bytes) () 12/07/2009 postreply 12:32:05

• 哈哈，你太可爱了。 我们实验室的老规矩，结果不好的 -sunnylily789- ♀ (83 bytes) () 12/07/2009 postreply 12:38:31

• Unfortunately,我可不是"完美形象",也许幼稚得不得了. -OregonRain- ♀ (27 bytes) () 12/07/2009 postreply 12:48:52

• 这位哥哥不要自卑，不是所有的老美都tall, handsome romantic -sansemao- ♀ (142 bytes) () 12/07/2009 postreply 12:04:54

• To answer the question you asked at the end: -1800900- ♀ (533 bytes) () 12/07/2009 postreply 12:08:02

• 回复：To answer the question you asked at the end: -realizesomething- ♂ (393 bytes) () 12/07/2009 postreply 12:45:00

• Thank you for your nice words. I will pass this message -1800900- ♀ (218 bytes) () 12/07/2009 postreply 12:58:16

• Your English writing is so good. I am impressed. Looking -1800900- ♀ (48 bytes) () 12/07/2009 postreply 12:25:16

• 其实很多美国男人比中国男人还传统特别是中部来的. -pretty_woman2- ♀ (303 bytes) () 12/07/2009 postreply 12:42:30

• 回复：To 89 MM: Have You Met Any Excellent Chinese Men I know? -Windy2009- ♀ (258 bytes) () 12/07/2009 postreply 14:06:23

• 我相信有很多优秀的中国男人，但我也知道人性是相似的，无论种族肤色 -臭臭妈妈- ♀ (162 bytes) () 12/07/2009 postreply 15:31:41