其实姻缘天定，包括土姐的闪婚。但是，如果土姐在文章里有多

一些站在画家立场上的悲天悯人的笔态，可能反应就没那么激烈。

A lover or a friend，A big thing or a small，The winner takes it all，包括以前送给情人的定情物，现在也都成为新人的战利品。。这就是现实，命运。也是令人嘘浠的地方。。。人生起伏，谁能保证自己永远是赢家？谁能保证自己有一天不会＂someone way down here，Loses someone dear＂？

命运就是这么残酷。如果赢家对输家多一份厚重柔软的心，是不是大家都更能释怀一些呢？

很遗憾，我不会贴歌，歌本身更有感染力。

ABBA The Winner Takes It All

I don't wanna talk
About the things we've gone through
Though its hurting me
Now its history
I've played all my cards
And that's what you've done too
Nothing more to say
No more aces to play

The winner takes it all
The loser standing small
Beside the victory
That's her destiny

I was in your arms
Thinking I belonged there
I figured it made sense
Building me a fence
Building me a home
Thinking Id be strong there
But I was a fool
Playing by the rules

The gods may throw a dice
Their minds as cold as ice
And someone way down here
Loses someone dear
The winner takes it all
The loser has to fall
Its simple and its plain
Why should I complain.

But tell me does she kiss
Like I used to kiss you?
Does it feel the same
When she calls your name?
Somewhere deep inside
You must know I miss you
But what can I say
Rules must be obeyed

The judges will decide
The likes of me abide
Spectators of the show
Always staying low
The game is on again
A lover or a friend
A big thing or a small
The winner takes it all

I don't wanna talk
If it makes you feel sad
And I understand
You've come to shake my hand
I apologize
If it makes you feel bad
Seeing me so tense
No self-confidence
But you see
The winner takes it all
The winner takes it all......

所有跟帖： 

• 很有哲理 -sansemao- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/30/2008 postreply 11:32:30

• ding! 于我心有戚戚焉 -匿名了- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/30/2008 postreply 11:33:51

• hands... -deja_vu- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/30/2008 postreply 12:38:46

• 回复：其实姻缘天定，包括土姐的闪婚。但是，如果土姐在文章里有多 -匿名了- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/30/2008 postreply 11:34:10

• 女人善妒。土笋冻，你若不招人妒嫉，有悖于常理。 怎一个‘酸’字了得？ -看什么- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/30/2008 postreply 11:37:58

• 我可不是妒嫉她，她有什么值得人家妒嫉的阿？ -匿名了- ♀ (72 bytes) () 12/30/2008 postreply 11:46:37

• 喝醉酒的从来都：我， 我，我没-----醉。你不过代表我们妒嫉了。 -看什么- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/30/2008 postreply 11:51:33

• 我到是觉得,她那么快闪婚,可能也有的出于她当时自身利益的考虑 -jasondand- ♀ (152 bytes) () 12/30/2008 postreply 11:39:53

• 同意这个，咱们外人就不要对不了解的细节猜测了，只要人家过得好 -alazycatinsd- ♀ (136 bytes) () 12/30/2008 postreply 11:45:26

• 再说那个人没有烦恼呢?她可能内捻,不喜欢倒烦恼.只喜欢 -jasondand- ♀ (150 bytes) () 12/30/2008 postreply 11:50:25

• 9494:) -alazycatinsd- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/30/2008 postreply 11:51:25

• so, I sense 土姐must feel very blessed 4 her marriage, -lemay- ♀ (165 bytes) () 12/30/2008 postreply 11:52:30

• 婚姻就如鞋，是否舒服，穿的人最知道。他人没必要指指点点 -sansemao- ♀ (56 bytes) () 12/30/2008 postreply 11:55:07

• 是这理。土姐就是看上去太顺了，要在跨坛小尝挫折课了。 -糖果果- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/30/2008 postreply 11:47:26

• 女人爱管闲事瞎操心，都是总理人选。 自己什么嘴脸不管，先管别人。 -看什么- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/30/2008 postreply 11:48:10

• 同意。女人堆里是非多。 -tanager- ♂ (0 bytes) () 12/30/2008 postreply 12:02:48

• 这话说的不厚道了些。 -sansemao- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/30/2008 postreply 12:27:24

• 古今中外女人都逃避不了这生就的本性。偶不是针对楼主，对现象。 -看什么- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/30/2008 postreply 12:57:26

• 也许土jj未必不同情画家，只不过这跟她那篇文章的主题关系不大 -过耳风- ♀ (16 bytes) () 12/30/2008 postreply 11:49:40

• 真的，从她的贴子里我没看到她对画家的感觉，不管是同情还是不同情 -alazycatinsd- ♀ (26 bytes) () 12/30/2008 postreply 11:53:31

• talking about someones' ex is very senstitive topic, -lemay- ♀ (87 bytes) () 12/30/2008 postreply 12:01:28

• I was the first one feeling sorry to her hub's ex -pollyli- ♀ (666 bytes) () 12/30/2008 postreply 11:51:27

• 下面有个MM写得好，就是如果一个男人跟你交往到了一定的时候还不能 -alazycatinsd- ♀ (110 bytes) () 12/30/2008 postreply 11:56:10

• Agree, she is not smart. But, he could do better not hurt her -pollyli- ♀ (114 bytes) () 12/30/2008 postreply 12:01:01

• 的确是这样，很多男人应该可以更好地处理这个情况的但是他们却没有 -alazycatinsd- ♀ (98 bytes) () 12/30/2008 postreply 12:04:54

• but we do not know much about Bill & his Ex,maybe -lemay- ♀ (499 bytes) () 12/30/2008 postreply 12:08:54

• Agree, there are so many things that we don't know -pollyli- ♀ (57 bytes) () 12/30/2008 postreply 12:22:28

• 盗亦有道 -结婚十年- ♀ (125 bytes) () 12/30/2008 postreply 12:44:06

• Ding JJ, actually, I also feel sorry to her hub's ex -lemay- ♀ (315 bytes) () 12/30/2008 postreply 11:57:14

• 回复：I was the first one feeling sorry to her hub's ex -alazycatinsd- ♀ (41 bytes) () 12/30/2008 postreply 11:59:45

• 小问：过后，你有过焉知非福的感觉吗？我猜上天会补给你的 -糖果果- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/30/2008 postreply 12:04:30

• In fact, 过后, I don't trust love any more, so I am still single -pollyli- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/30/2008 postreply 12:19:53

• jj, Please trust Love again, I heard about one person who -lemay- ♀ (274 bytes) () 12/30/2008 postreply 12:26:33

• 这个真Sad。真不希望是这样。那男的不能代表所有的。你的缘分会来的。 -糖果果- ♀ (43 bytes) () 12/30/2008 postreply 12:29:00

• 抱抱，还是一句话，THINGS HAPPEN FOR REASONS -sansemao- ♀ (118 bytes) () 12/30/2008 postreply 12:30:11

• 就是，这个我见多了，结婚没多久的妻子看着丈夫跟防贼似的，这样的婚姻 -alazycatinsd- ♀ (18 bytes) () 12/30/2008 postreply 12:34:45

• understand. if that relationship is MM's first love, it really n -Sylviadu- ♀ (21 bytes) () 12/30/2008 postreply 12:32:12

• Thanks above JM. I am a happy single lady with a BF -pollyli- ♀ (288 bytes) () 12/30/2008 postreply 12:40:07

• wanna cry, I want to give you a big big hug!!!~~~ -匿名了- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/30/2008 postreply 12:48:36

• Cann't agree more. -...Thanks- ♂ (268 bytes) () 12/30/2008 postreply 12:01:41

• 我老公和前白人女友交往了6，7年，也还是分手了， -curiousg- ♀ (74 bytes) () 12/30/2008 postreply 12:06:57

• 我觉得BILL做的不是很地道，在没有跟保持2年恋情的女人分手的情况下， -xiaoya316- ♀ (120 bytes) () 12/30/2008 postreply 12:10:59

• 如果没法得到承诺，就是有什么不到位，对于谁未必都是坏事 -sansemao- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/30/2008 postreply 12:13:22

• 交往分手是很正常事情，但要把事情处理好，在本来没有任何感情 -xiaoya316- ♀ (108 bytes) () 12/30/2008 postreply 12:18:37

• 是很难接受。 -sansemao- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/30/2008 postreply 12:26:42

• 这没办法，情场如战场，不论男女都是你死我活啊。伤痛总是难免的。男人 -alazycatinsd- ♀ (56 bytes) () 12/30/2008 postreply 12:16:08

• 说的也是，这不是cheating吗？ -curiousG- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/30/2008 postreply 12:16:08

• 战场也有战场的规矩，不能妄杀无辜平民。背叛就是背叛 -britannica- ♀ (82 bytes) () 12/30/2008 postreply 12:23:17

• 情场上永远没有公平可言的，事实上生活里也是这样。 -alazycatinsd- ♀ (198 bytes) () 12/30/2008 postreply 12:28:42

• 太同意了，于我心有戚戚焉。 -deja_vu- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/30/2008 postreply 12:30:02

• 楼上说得都是理想国里的准则啦，现实恰恰相反呢。 -alazycatinsd- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/30/2008 postreply 12:31:57

• 把双方状态说清楚，再去DATE别人有那么难吗？ -deja_vu- ♀ (88 bytes) () 12/30/2008 postreply 12:36:28

• 说清楚是应该的。 -sansemao- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/30/2008 postreply 12:37:37

• 坦率说，对很多男人而言真的就那么难。我读过几本男人写的关于约会的书， -alazycatinsd- ♀ (70 bytes) () 12/30/2008 postreply 12:42:59

• 已婚的也要自求多福。男人对婚姻出轨也是先斩后奏型居多。 -deja_vu- ♀ (54 bytes) () 12/30/2008 postreply 12:54:51

• 同感！我们不知道BILL和他的EX之间是什么状态， -deja_vu- ♀ (150 bytes) () 12/30/2008 postreply 12:33:18

• 过来支持你一下:)) -britannica- ♀ (82 bytes) () 12/30/2008 postreply 12:17:34

• thanks! agree with ya! -deja_vu- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/30/2008 postreply 12:30:27

• 没憋住，也说句实话 -loveny2- ♀ (335 bytes) () 12/30/2008 postreply 12:33:33

• 呵呵，你咋又没憋住？ -sansemao- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/30/2008 postreply 12:36:04

• 又？想不起啥时这么使劲憋过:) -loveny2- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/30/2008 postreply 12:39:28

• 上次发言没憋着？我以为你憋着呢，呵呵 -sansemao- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/30/2008 postreply 12:43:37

• 俺没发言评论过啊？呵呵，猫猫又犯眼花 -loveny2- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/30/2008 postreply 13:46:28

• 谢谢支持！ -匿名了- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/30/2008 postreply 12:36:33