Here is what I think about Martin,

来源: wonderbear 于 2006-12-09 11:58:53 [] [博客] [旧帖] [给我悄悄话] 阅读数 : (1708 bytes)
回答: Katie和她的先生Martin 由 MaggieMay_Pei 于 2006-12-08 14:46:20

I agree "结了婚的男人总是不戴戒指不太好".

Maybe it is ok for Chinese men, but for American men, it's unusual. You can see around the more Americanized a Chinese man is, the more he will behave "Americanly" and wear his wedding ring. In their case, Martin only wore his wedding ring at the wedding, somehow he still has his options opened to other girls in everyday life.

Katie needs to learn her part, she needs to work harder on her language and ability to survive in this country. But how good is good? No matter how good a foreigner's English is, as long as she didn't come here when she was really young, there would be something someone can pick on.

Their marriage is not so good to begin with, because he lied to her about how expensive it was to buy insurance for a foreigner. As long as they are married, insurance company won't distiguish a foreigner from an American spouse. A family plan is a family plan, no matter what.Also, if he loves her enough, he will care more than her about her immigration status, because he need and want her to be with him.

I think we need to keep our eyes wide open and be very aware that there are men out there, attracted by exotic chinese women, but they don't want to take the responsibilities and the language and culture conflicts they may face in their life.

Summary about Martin: A goodlooking and smart American guy (noticed I didn't say man, because he didn't deserve this title.) , super selfish, irresponsible and cold, a good short term relationship partner, e.g., ons, but not a life partner.

My advise to girls around Martin: Stay away from him. Or never take him too seriously.



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• I have seen and heard so many "Martin". -MaggieMay_Pei- ♀ 给 MaggieMay_Pei 发送悄悄话 (1444 bytes) () 12/09/2006 postreply 13:44:13

• MaggieMay_Pei, I so agree with you, -wonderbear- ♀ 给 wonderbear 发送悄悄话 wonderbear 的博客首页 (280 bytes) () 12/09/2006 postreply 15:13:45

• Well said. I totally agree with you. -gzlady- ♀ 给 gzlady 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 12/10/2006 postreply 08:12:04

• 分析得真好。无论会不会说中文，都不能CHEAP到保险都不买, -hlcca- ♀ 给 hlcca 发送悄悄话 (53 bytes) () 12/10/2006 postreply 18:57:42

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