Thanks so much, more please....

I am very touched to see many JMs' helpful suggestions and advices, they were all very nice, I do appreciate your help very much.
I did get divorce, and when we moved back from China to join him, he did want to marry me right away, but my parents in China didn't like him that much, and they were worried if an American guy was reliable, as they always thought that I was very simple and naive, so I thought that we should wait for a few months while I was trying to convince my parents.

I did get a job after I felt there were some problems in our relationship as he seemed different, I have always been very independent and the job I am having now is also a faculty job in the same university, although I get less paid than he, it is enough to support myself and my kid.

What makes me so angry is he tried to escape instead of trying to put effort to face the reality and try to solve the problem, sometimes I wonder why I still have feelings for him, I guess I have built my life around him for so many years, and I have felt all the feelings that a woman can possibly feel for a man, I always thought he loved me much more than I did with him, when he was after me, what he did and said was so touching and moving that I could not forget, but I also figured that he might be very good at talking and writing, I still believe that he did love me very deeply all these years. But I guess he needs something to stimulate him constantly as soon as he feels the passion is not as strong as before, even I told him that it is normal that the passion if getting less strong after a few years, I don't know....

I thought about moving to another state and get a job, so I don't need to see him and I could try to forget about him a little easier, but I hate to see my kid have to move again, it must be stressful for him too. So I might still stay in the same town and work in the same building, everytime I get hurt when I see him, and I have not been able to sleep for almost 2 weeks, I could only sleep for 2 hours most of the nights, and it drives me crazy...... What can I do? I couldn't focus on my work either, all my coworkers know that I am sad but they don't know the reason, I felt that I was going to have nerve breakdown if I couldn't talk to anybody, thank you everybody for being there for me. It is especially difficult to face my kid when I am in such a bad mood, I am not functionning well at all..

I mentioned " destroy his reputation", as everbody thought he is a honest man and nice, but I thought that they might want to see the other side of him. you are right, I will not do that. He had a lot failure in his work over the past few years, so he is very unhappy about his job.

Thank you agai, and all the advices would be appreciate.

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• 回复：Thanks so much, more please.... -米沙- ♀ (296 bytes) () 02/23/2008 postreply 11:59:54

• 非常正确,该过去总会过去的,睡不着就上这来灌水,灌啊灌的成习惯了.嘿, -知福惜福- ♀ (104 bytes) () 02/23/2008 postreply 12:18:51

• 回复：Thanks so much, more please.... -happy1014- ♀ (159 bytes) () 02/23/2008 postreply 13:21:34