be calm

1. definetely not do under any situation: anything that destroys his reputation in the school
2.things that you should try your best not do;
a. talk with his parents or his friend or friends know both of you regarding his affair
b. try to talk to his new girlfriend
c. push him to talk about this woman
d. say anything that your regrets in the future

I understand your pain and hope that there is something like a magic medicine to cure it. Unfortunately there is nothing. You have only two choices: leave him or try to work it out. If you want to leave him, it is easy and you can do whatever you want. If you want to work it out, it is a hard job. No matter how painful it is, you have to respect him and give him space (not initiating talks regarding his affair). You will say that it is not fair that it is his problem, not mine. Life is not fair. If I were you, I should only keep telling him: I loved and still love you, I appreciate your love and support during my difficulty times, I had greater time during ... time, your current affair hurt me very much, I want try my best to work it out, I want to know what you want me to do at this time. You need try to avoid accusing him when he talks with you about his feeling and affair. Just keeping telling him that you feel hurt deeply when you are mad, nothing else Trust me that it works much better than accusing him or screaming at him. If he wants you give him space, you should and you have to since anything else will do not any good to you. You can ask him if he want to see a family consultant together. You will be surprised that your calmness will scare him much more then your scream at him if he still care about you. And it is very possible that he feels very hard to talk with you comparing to talk with his current girl friend. Your success depends on if he will open his heart to talk with your again and depends on if you can keep him talk with you instead of looking for other to talk.
Then where should you release your stress? Easy, internet (such as 回跨国婚) :), your best friends who do not know him so have not chance to talk with him, professional family consultants.
From my experiences and your post, your hu*****and still cares about you deeply.

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• Thanks so much, more please.... -middleagelady- ♀ (2807 bytes) () 02/23/2008 postreply 11:42:02

• 回复：Thanks so much, more please.... -米沙- ♀ (296 bytes) () 02/23/2008 postreply 11:59:54

• 非常正确,该过去总会过去的,睡不着就上这来灌水,灌啊灌的成习惯了.嘿, -知福惜福- ♀ (104 bytes) () 02/23/2008 postreply 12:18:51

• 回复：Thanks so much, more please.... -happy1014- ♀ (159 bytes) () 02/23/2008 postreply 13:21:34