Is my boyfriend lying?

I went out of town the last two weekends, and it was the first time I didn't see my boyfriend for 4 days at a time. To my surprise, he didn't initiate the calls the first weekend while I was away, and he never picked up my calls on Saturday night when I tried multiple times. On Sunday morning, he told me he left his cellphone in car charging. I complained to him and asked him to call me in the future. So when I went out of town again this past weekend, he called. But while I was away from him, my gut just kept telling me something happened the other weekend, there was a reason he didn't pick up the calls, on Saturday night, but he will never tell me the truth and I will never find out why. Even if what he said was true, the fact that he didn't want to stay connected everyday while I was away is not comforting to me either.

I don't know if I can overcome this trusting issue. We have been dating for 6 months, everything was great except sex, he is not very interested in sex. I had to wonder if he has someone else on the side??

This insecurity feeling is really bad. I don't want to feel insecure in a relationship. I'd rather have no one than worrying about what/where he is up to. Should I wait and see and then make a decision? Or just cut it short and call it an end? Any suggestions/tips?

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• 随着感觉走，你自己的感觉最正确了。 -chinesejo- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/17/2007 postreply 08:16:21

• Trust and open communication are the keys -jun1202- ♀ (212 bytes) () 12/17/2007 postreply 08:18:39

• I have similar problem , I take advice here and broke up -Arashi- ♀ (131 bytes) () 12/17/2007 postreply 08:42:39

• Just wait and see. do not rush to give up. -fanfan88- ♀ (1105 bytes) () 12/17/2007 postreply 08:57:23

• good for you! -back-to-dating- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/18/2007 postreply 00:06:36

• now we had a chat over IM -happySingleMom- ♀ (450 bytes) () 12/17/2007 postreply 09:32:26

• 回复：now we had a chat over IM -happySingleMom- ♀ (265 bytes) () 12/17/2007 postreply 09:36:28

• Don't put too much pressure on the American guys. They -xueen- ♀ (55 bytes) () 12/17/2007 postreply 09:38:32

• I agree with that we should give personal space to our spouse. -gzlady- ♀ (209 bytes) () 12/17/2007 postreply 10:10:36

• really disagree. amreican guy is teh same as chinese guy -fanfan88- ♀ (47 bytes) () 12/17/2007 postreply 10:20:08

• we broke up exact the same way as you do. -Arashi- ♀ (169 bytes) () 12/17/2007 postreply 10:37:33

• I do think your bfs made their cases. Trusting is not other -sansemao- ♀ (354 bytes) () 12/17/2007 postreply 11:10:15

• wowo he said in that tone! then ur bf is not a nice guy. -fanfan88- ♀ (72 bytes) () 12/17/2007 postreply 09:48:10

• but most American guys definitely need more personal -xueen- ♀ (149 bytes) () 12/17/2007 postreply 10:25:09

• If personal space means some private time and space -gzlady- ♀ (242 bytes) () 12/17/2007 postreply 10:35:51

• IN FACT, our chinese need some private time and space -fanfan88- ♀ (74 bytes) () 12/17/2007 postreply 10:43:49

• Yes, human nature wise, there are not much differences -gzlady- ♀ (31 bytes) () 12/17/2007 postreply 10:47:13

• American guys get turned off u suspect them for no specific -xueen- ♀ (162 bytes) () 12/17/2007 postreply 09:59:58

• i disagree. american guy is the same as chinese guy. -fanfan88- ♀ (177 bytes) () 12/17/2007 postreply 10:18:40

• U don't have any evidence that he's done something wrong, so -xueen- ♀ (57 bytes) () 12/17/2007 postreply 09:37:32

• 任何一段感情能够成功，无论婚否，无论男女，有一条原则， -sansemao- ♀ (120 bytes) () 12/17/2007 postreply 09:55:33

• Agree,Ding... -Peninsula- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/17/2007 postreply 10:23:51

• 你谁呀？咋越看越象马甲呢？ -sansemao- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/17/2007 postreply 10:26:07

• 流坛的第一美腿，赶快去看看吧 -acme- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/17/2007 postreply 10:40:32

• 看了，还是喜欢乐乐妈的腿。 -sansemao- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/17/2007 postreply 10:51:05

• If I were you, I would be upset too. He owns you a good -gzlady- ♀ (479 bytes) () 12/17/2007 postreply 10:22:41

• GZlady, what do you think is a good way talk about the suspectio -Arashi- ♀ (349 bytes) () 12/17/2007 postreply 10:47:46

• Thank you for your trust and compliment. I don't think -gzlady- ♀ (375 bytes) () 12/17/2007 postreply 10:57:07