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My fiancé told me that he does not want to continue anymore and I need to move out in 2-3 months. I need help!

My fiancé and I have been together for over 3 years and we have announced hu*****and and wife to people. We have had great 3+ years and we have been very happy together.

We started trying for a baby in 2010, but had two miscarriages. We were both devastated when the 1st one happened in Feb 2011. It took us over 2 years to get pregnant again, but I lost in in April this year when it was 9 weeks.

We both have very stressful job. He was working on taking more accounts to build his business in the past couple of month and finally it happened earlier this month and has a commitment for another 3-5 years. He is under a lot of stress lately.

For the past few weeks, he seems to be drifting away from me. He told me a few weeks ago that he was nervous of having a baby. We did not really talk about the baby/pregnancy matters after my miscarriage. I have been under treatment since December. 3 weeks ago he said he wanted to put off the pregnancy, and he has a lot to digest. I told him that I was not getting any younger and being 36, I may not get pregnant if I miss the opportunity. Over that weekend, he turned to a stranger to me. He said that he had been a bachelor too long and can't adjust, and he does not want to have kids.  

2 weeks ago, he told me that he has been very unhappy and did not want to continue the relationship. He asked me to move out of his house within 2-3 months.

I do not know what made him make this decision, as he is usually a very reasonable and rational individual. Is it that he does not love me anymore or is it just that he did not want me to miss the opportunity so that he wants to set me free?

He has been very cold and distant to me since then.

What can I do to bring him back?

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• looks like he really does not want to have kids any more. Unless -iwbh- ♀ (39 bytes) () 07/10/2013 postreply 13:17:57

• Unless you decide to give up on having kids, too -iwbh- ♀ (0 bytes) () 07/10/2013 postreply 13:20:28

• 安慰下，找地方搬家，先把生活的事落实下来，再静观其变吧！ -绿树茵茵- ♀ (0 bytes) () 07/10/2013 postreply 13:22:14

• CO：安慰下，找地方搬家，先把生活的事落实下来，再静观其变吧！ -Shlily2009- ♀ (0 bytes) () 07/10/2013 postreply 13:54:47

• 先找房子吧。你非要把他找回来也行，就是永远甜蜜的笑什么都以他的爱好为圣旨，不过也就是拖延几个月罢了，你也不可能一辈子这么做。 -Kamioka- ♀ (0 bytes) () 07/10/2013 postreply 13:23:17

• 不觉得有什么错。反过来，如果你不想要小孩而对方总吵着要你是不是很烦？ -看着- ♀ (132 bytes) () 07/10/2013 postreply 13:27:02

• Seems he gets cold feet about the relationship becauus of the st -prettyfunnyface- ♀ (914 bytes) () 07/10/2013 postreply 13:34:47

• 他本来是想要孩子的，现在不想了有可能是压力太大对伴侣厌烦了的缘故。 -prettyfunnyface- ♀ (72 bytes) () 07/10/2013 postreply 13:52:18

• 有的是俩个人的血液就不搭，怀孕也要流产 -傻妞一个- ♀ (0 bytes) () 07/10/2013 postreply 13:55:54

• 回复：Seems he gets cold feet about the relationship becauus of the -IB- ♀ (38 bytes) () 07/10/2013 postreply 16:32:46

• 看贴感想，结婚还是必要的啊！ -知福惜福- ♀ (0 bytes) () 07/10/2013 postreply 13:38:58

• 妹妹要是我的话，会带着微笑搬出去的。 -笨企鹅- ♀ (0 bytes) () 07/10/2013 postreply 13:42:22

• 对，先玩几个月再说，反正也没孩子坠着 -傻妞一个- ♀ (0 bytes) () 07/10/2013 postreply 13:57:07

• 读后感：混合同还是很必要的。另：没必要挽回了， -温馨秋月- ♀ (53 bytes) () 07/10/2013 postreply 14:15:22

• 悄悄地收拾东西走人，手机关机，让他找不到你 -淡淡郁金香- ♀ (0 bytes) () 07/10/2013 postreply 14:19:39

• 回复：悄悄地收拾东西走人，手机关机，让他找不到你 -Ib- ♀ (791 bytes) () 07/10/2013 postreply 14:31:28

• 这种平常很rational的人做决定是想过的，过后不会再改。 -看着- ♀ (101 bytes) () 07/10/2013 postreply 14:39:50

• 要想他回头，你只能搬出去，并断绝和他的一切联系，等他想清楚了，还有一线希望回头。 -月下猫- ♀ (116 bytes) () 07/10/2013 postreply 14:44:16

• 回复：回复：悄悄地收拾东西走人，手机关机，让他找不到你 -笨企鹅- ♀ (203 bytes) () 07/10/2013 postreply 14:44:20

• 回复：回复：回复：悄悄地收拾东西走人，手机关机，让他找不到你 -IB- ♀ (571 bytes) () 07/10/2013 postreply 16:30:31

• 他没跟你结婚就说明他对你们的关系有重大的concern. -Kamioka- ♀ (0 bytes) () 07/10/2013 postreply 14:48:28

• 肯定不是白哥哥， 人家文明程度高， 绝对不会这么做！一定是国男！ -pacsqc- ♂ (0 bytes) () 07/10/2013 postreply 14:22:29

• :-) I knew that too! -pacsqc- ♂ (0 bytes) () 07/10/2013 postreply 14:28:52

• 同意，我觉得IB对他的心思一点也不了解。问题早就悄悄存在了，可是她浑然不知 -hany- ♀ (98 bytes) () 07/11/2013 postreply 20:07:32

• 嗨，想当妈妈还是把婚想结了吧。千万别和不愿结婚的人一起生孩子，不值。 -月下猫- ♀ (0 bytes) () 07/10/2013 postreply 14:27:22

• 回复：My partner said he did not want to continue the relationship -IB- ♀ (23 bytes) () 07/10/2013 postreply 14:34:03

• 回复：My partner said he did not want to continue the relationship -IB- ♀ (561 bytes) () 07/10/2013 postreply 14:40:37

• 这种抠门的人， 一看就知道是什么种！还是离了吧！ -pacsqc- ♂ (0 bytes) () 07/10/2013 postreply 14:46:23

• 哇，好会算计的主儿。连房子APPRECIATE的小钱都不给未婚妻占点便宜。当时就应看透他了。 -autumnleaf99- ♀ (0 bytes) () 07/10/2013 postreply 15:31:50

• 哇，好会算计的主儿。连房子APPRECIATE的小钱都不给未婚妻占点便宜。当时就应看透他了。 -autumnleaf99- ♀ (6 bytes) () 07/10/2013 postreply 15:31:55

• 我理解是他买高了，后来房价掉了，让女的付当时房价一半不公平 -煎饼加油条- ♀ (0 bytes) () 07/12/2013 postreply 09:53:12

• 抱抱MM！ 能理解你现在想把他拉回来。但下决心离开了的男人的心是拉不回来的。 -sweetbug- ♀ (65 bytes) () 07/10/2013 postreply 14:46:42

• 强CO：抱抱MM！ 能理解你现在想把他拉回来。但下决心离开了的男人的心是拉不回来的。 -小大象- ♂ (0 bytes) () 07/10/2013 postreply 14:48:05

• 回复：强CO：抱抱MM！ 能理解你现在想把他拉回来。但下决心离开了的男人的心是拉不回来的。 -IB- ♀ (543 bytes) () 07/10/2013 postreply 15:01:33

• 是这个道理！ -sweetbug- ♀ (0 bytes) () 07/10/2013 postreply 15:05:21

• 两次流产可能对他有刺激。可以和他心平气和地谈一次，看他怎么说。 -sweetbug- ♀ (115 bytes) () 07/10/2013 postreply 15:10:48

• 回复：两次流产可能对他有刺激。可以和他心平气和地谈一次，看他怎么说。 -IB- ♀ (387 bytes) () 07/10/2013 postreply 15:16:02

• 不象，有其它女人在心里一般不愿意had a lot of intimacy,一般 masterbate -prettyfunnyface- ♀ (0 bytes) () 07/10/2013 postreply 15:35:14

• Hugs!!! Just don't allow yourself to be hurt even more. Wish you -sweetbug- ♀ (0 bytes) () 07/10/2013 postreply 16:55:07

• the best luck! -sweetbug- ♀ (0 bytes) () 07/10/2013 postreply 16:55:34

• MM你要听话听音不能一厢情愿啊：not fair to either of us =not fair to him只是这么说好听 -Kamioka- ♀ (0 bytes) () 07/10/2013 postreply 18:00:36

• a good person with a big heart 怎么会让你去找别人做孩儿他爹？freeze eggs, 搬家吧。 -猫眼狗眼- ♀ (0 bytes) () 07/10/2013 postreply 18:47:37

• 抱抱MM -心渡- ♀ (0 bytes) () 07/10/2013 postreply 16:27:54

• 以最快的速度搬出去是上上策！即使你想挽回，也要搬出去再说！ -Xueronghua- ♀ (136 bytes) () 07/11/2013 postreply 00:04:36

• 回复：以最快的速度搬出去是上上策！即使你想挽回，也要搬出去再说！ -ib- ♀ (912 bytes) () 07/11/2013 postreply 04:48:53