I Am In Dilemma. Help! Help! Help!!!

来源: marta 于 2010-07-29 18:24:08 [] [旧帖] [给我悄悄话] 阅读数 : (384 bytes)

LG and I have been living in two different states long distance for 8 months. I have just got an job offer in LG's state but the salary is $10,000 less yearly. And there is either no yearly salary increase or the increase is next to nothing. Housing is more expensive in his state than mine. I am in agony as to whether I should accept this offer and move to LG's state or not.

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• If you love him, you should accept the offer. -beauideal- ♀ 给 beauideal 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 07/29/2010 postreply 18:33:29

• 当然接受。这还用问吗？两地的苦...还是你对现在工作比较看重？他能过来吗？ -翩翩~~- ♀ 给 翩翩~~ 发送悄悄话 翩翩~~ 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 07/29/2010 postreply 18:42:54

• The two jobs are exactly the same,but the work environment is -marta- ♀ 给 marta 发送悄悄话 (250 bytes) () 07/29/2010 postreply 18:57:23

• 分开了关系才变好，很可能是距离产生美，不太看好长远。 -pearl001- ♀ 给 pearl001 发送悄悄话 (80 bytes) () 07/29/2010 postreply 19:07:53

• 我之所以这样说，是因为我以前认识的一位朋友。 -pearl001- ♀ 给 pearl001 发送悄悄话 (361 bytes) () 07/29/2010 postreply 19:15:20

• if "two jobs are exactly the same" as you said, move. -cy9459- ♀ 给 cy9459 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 07/29/2010 postreply 21:05:42

• He worries that my new offer may not be stable due to the -marta- ♀ 给 marta 发送悄悄话 (30 bytes) () 07/29/2010 postreply 21:14:13

• 如果他曾要和你离婚的话，那你要考虑考虑。我们女人，一辈子都得端着，他得求着你。 -翩翩~~- ♀ 给 翩翩~~ 发送悄悄话 翩翩~~ 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 07/29/2010 postreply 19:20:14

• Exactly！ -pearl001- ♀ 给 pearl001 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 07/29/2010 postreply 19:21:47

• stay together is priceless. If Iwere you I would move -windlove- ♀ 给 windlove 发送悄悄话 windlove 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 07/29/2010 postreply 18:46:08

• 如果他没有可能搬到你在的州，你就不要多想了。搬吧。除非 -89MM- ♀ 给 89MM 发送悄悄话 89MM 的博客首页 (19 bytes) () 07/29/2010 postreply 18:46:55

• 回复：如果他没有可能搬到你在的州，你就不要多想了。搬吧。除非 -marta- ♀ 给 marta 发送悄悄话 (321 bytes) () 07/29/2010 postreply 19:10:53

• 这么说的话，更不值得作牺牲了。离就离呗，又没孩子， -pearl001- ♀ 给 pearl001 发送悄悄话 (68 bytes) () 07/29/2010 postreply 19:19:04

• 应该让男人追着自己跑才对，哪能女人追着男人跑？他以后还是不会珍惜你。 -pearl001- ♀ 给 pearl001 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 07/29/2010 postreply 19:20:42

• 明白了。这么一说事情就复杂了。理解你的犹豫。如果搬过去， -89MM- ♀ 给 89MM 发送悄悄话 89MM 的博客首页 (210 bytes) () 07/29/2010 postreply 19:25:13

• 回复：明白了。这么一说事情就复杂了。理解你的犹豫。如果搬过去， -marta- ♀ 给 marta 发送悄悄话 (231 bytes) () 07/29/2010 postreply 19:39:38

• 他好像并不appreciate你的努力啊 -碧海蓝天~- ♀ 给 碧海蓝天~ 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 07/29/2010 postreply 20:11:04

• 这种情况下不要动最好。不值得。 -墨佬- ♀ 给 墨佬 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 07/29/2010 postreply 19:27:44

• Do whatever is good for yourself. Not him.He should make efforts -julie116- ♀ 给 julie116 发送悄悄话 (35 bytes) () 07/29/2010 postreply 22:27:43

• relationship没处理好时还是不要冒然放弃工作，否则到最后你会两者都失去。 -chinesebuns- ♀ 给 chinesebuns 发送悄悄话 chinesebuns 的博客首页 (317 bytes) () 07/30/2010 postreply 04:40:53

• 回复：relationship没处理好时还是不要冒然放弃工作，否则到最后你会两者都失去。 -marta- ♀ 给 marta 发送悄悄话 (121 bytes) () 07/30/2010 postreply 06:52:13

• Wow,18-year-old marriage. You need to move!!!!!!!!! -螺丝螺帽- ♀ 给 螺丝螺帽 发送悄悄话 螺丝螺帽 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 07/30/2010 postreply 07:45:26

• you are welcome, best wishes, remember: where is love and where -chinesebuns- ♀ 给 chinesebuns 发送悄悄话 chinesebuns 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 07/30/2010 postreply 11:50:49

• I am sure you spent more than 10,000 for traveling and taking ca -fyshy44- ♀ 给 fyshy44 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 07/29/2010 postreply 19:18:16

• He can come to see me once a month but I have to -marta- ♀ 给 marta 发送悄悄话 (141 bytes) () 07/29/2010 postreply 20:54:25

• I cannot believe you even need to pay his tickets! -julie116- ♀ 给 julie116 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 07/29/2010 postreply 22:29:14

• Is he making very low income? -螺丝螺帽- ♀ 给 螺丝螺帽 发送悄悄话 螺丝螺帽 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 07/30/2010 postreply 07:46:58

• No! He makes much more than I do. -marta- ♀ 给 marta 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 07/30/2010 postreply 09:10:13

• So, why you need to pay te ticket? You ask him to visit you? -螺丝螺帽- ♀ 给 螺丝螺帽 发送悄悄话 螺丝螺帽 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 07/30/2010 postreply 09:13:56

• 如果我是你，会选择暂时不搬。要搬也是他该搬 - 这种情况他不是不能，而是不想。 -alazycatinsd- ♀ 给 alazycatinsd 发送悄悄话 alazycatinsd 的博客首页 (233 bytes) () 07/29/2010 postreply 19:22:35

• 同意懒猫的.还有将来要生小孩放下工作.如果男人很MOTIONAL不STABLE,不值得为他做牺牲. -pretty_woman2- ♀ 给 pretty_woman2 发送悄悄话 pretty_woman2 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 07/29/2010 postreply 20:06:48

• 回复：如果我是你，会选择暂时不搬。要搬也是他该搬 - 这种情况他不是不能，而是不想。 -marta- ♀ 给 marta 发送悄悄话 (211 bytes) () 07/29/2010 postreply 20:36:54

• I might have missed this, is he your LG or BF? If he's your LG, -随性的秤子- ♀ 给 随性的秤子 发送悄悄话 (383 bytes) () 07/29/2010 postreply 19:42:32

• 那时对的无私的男人.对于自私的男人还是得留个心眼.反正我要是有疙瘩就不会婚. -pretty_woman2- ♀ 给 pretty_woman2 发送悄悄话 pretty_woman2 的博客首页 (46 bytes) () 07/29/2010 postreply 20:09:04

• 那是我不了解背景了。美女所得对，如果两人真心相爱并有着健康的婚姻，这大概也就不是个问题了。problemed 婚姻，就另当别论了 -随性的秤子- ♀ 给 随性的秤子 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 07/30/2010 postreply 11:51:34

• You lost only 6k, governments lost 4k tax. -LAChinese- ♂ 给 LAChinese 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 07/29/2010 postreply 21:58:19

• I agree that if the marriage is in trouble, dont' move. If -LAChinese- ♂ 给 LAChinese 发送悄悄话 (155 bytes) () 07/29/2010 postreply 22:14:29

• 不去肯定完，去了也不一定不完，但至少还有希望。 -驭风而行- ♀ 给 驭风而行 发送悄悄话 (33 bytes) () 07/30/2010 postreply 01:25:14

• agree. if you don't want to give up, then go. at least you tried -Kamioka- ♀ 给 Kamioka 发送悄悄话 Kamioka 的博客首页 (538 bytes) () 07/30/2010 postreply 06:55:11

• 在一起比多一点钱重要 -温馨秋月- ♀ 给 温馨秋月 发送悄悄话 温馨秋月 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 07/30/2010 postreply 07:51:59

• I think so, too. My efforts were not appreciated. -marta- ♀ 给 marta 发送悄悄话 (74 bytes) () 07/30/2010 postreply 09:07:11

• why did he sigh? Sounds weird. 18 yrs marriage should not get th -foxinsnow- ♀ 给 foxinsnow 发送悄悄话 foxinsnow 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 07/30/2010 postreply 09:30:57

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