agree. if you don't want to give up, then go. at least you tried

agree. if you don't want to give up, then go. at least you tried. the worst is not wanting to let the marriage go but don't do anything to help it. if you don't go, then basically the signal is that you are giving up. actions are louder than words, and your hu*****and will get the signal. even if you are not happy about the 10k loss, you shouldn't complain to your hu*****and and he will appreciate your sacrifice. yes, the marriage may not work even if you move there, that depends on whether you are ready to give up the marriage now.