unfortunately divorce is about throwing money at lawyers

you may not have all the money, but you should invest your time to read about the family law in your state yourself. and like sisters here said, take advantage of 1st time free consultation and find a tough lawyer in the end. usually the one with better lawyer gets a better deal in the end in divorce, so consider your money well invested and don't be timidated by his threat. your advantage is that he wants a divorce soon. so drag him out and he should compromise later. no lawyer can garantee the outcome, it's up to the judge. but the better the lawyer, the more benefits he can find for you. you should keep that in mind.