dear XDJM I need a little support

i made some arrangement so i can take 2 afternoons off from work from this week, to pick up my kids and spend more time to help them with their study and after school activities. But i am sure my in-laws at home will definitely expect me to do more housework and cooking for dinner since i am at home early now. they have been doing miminum and whenever i am at home they just watch tv all the time without doing anything to help. today will be the first afternoon i will take off, a little unsure what i will face at home.

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没有INLAWS在你怎么过,不能总让老人当保姆吧。 -katies- 给 katies 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 09:39:44

life is much easier without them, tired but happy -y2001- 给 y2001 发送悄悄话 (159 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 09:55:17

不是吧。他们是没有意思才一个劲的看电视吧。难为老人在这里了。 -tian2- 给 tian2 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 10:04:35

it's more they don't want outdoor life -y2001- 给 y2001 发送悄悄话 (124 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 10:16:34

回复:不是吧。他们是没有意思才一个劲的看电视吧。难为老人在这里了。 -张小胖- 给 张小胖 发送悄悄话 (530 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 10:18:50

when my mom -y2001- 给 y2001 发送悄悄话 (128 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 10:27:25

你们难道没读到吗,她的公婆是常住的,十年了耶,不要都说得比唱的好听。 -princessannie- 给 princessannie 发送悄悄话 princessannie 的博客首页 (142 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 14:12:56

孝字,上半部分是老字,下面是子,老人和孩子合一起为孝 -smeagol1- 给 smeagol1 发送悄悄话 smeagol1 的博客首页 (122 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 10:18:54

They have raised your spouse to grow up. -nanmu- 给 nanmu 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 11:12:56

REMEMBER:WHAT YOU ARE TRYING TO DO NOW, -DUDUDUDUDU- 给 DUDUDUDUDU 发送悄悄话 (51 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 09:44:11

i give them all the freedom to do -y2001- 给 y2001 发送悄悄话 (147 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 09:59:25

Then, what are you complaining about here? -loti- 给 loti 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 11:33:53

i don't have the freedom any more -y2001- 给 y2001 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 12:03:13

他们看你在家,也想休息一下吧.也是可以理解的.要我7天在家里做 -我也有话说- 给 我也有话说 发送悄悄话 我也有话说 的博客首页 (16 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 09:52:39

they hardly do any housework at home -y2001- 给 y2001 发送悄悄话 (59 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 09:56:17

我原来有一个朋友,婆婆跟他们一齐住.每月20块的中文电视都不订 -我也有话说- 给 我也有话说 发送悄悄话 我也有话说 的博客首页 (126 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 10:10:53

got satelitte TV for them -y2001- 给 y2001 发送悄悄话 (168 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 10:18:54

老人不干活,看电视,是天经地义的。 -知名度比较高- 给 知名度比较高 发送悄悄话 知名度比较高 的博客首页 (202 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 09:54:42

顶!! -*smurf*- 给 *smurf* 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 09:56:25

ok got you -y2001- 给 y2001 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 09:57:32

No, I just can't believe the fact that your in-laws -HenryLi- 给 HenryLi 发送悄悄话 HenryLi 的博客首页 (495 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 10:18:15

dear doctor, they are the first of its kind i have -y2001- 给 y2001 发送悄悄话 (280 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 10:21:58

Yeah, I just couldn't believe this. And many people here -HenryLi- 给 HenryLi 发送悄悄话 HenryLi 的博客首页 (485 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 10:28:41

i am glad -y2001- 给 y2001 发送悄悄话 (102 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 10:34:10

In my real life, I had several true stories of how -HenryLi- 给 HenryLi 发送悄悄话 HenryLi 的博客首页 (231 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 10:38:49

i ve know from the very beginning -y2001- 给 y2001 发送悄悄话 (167 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 10:42:36

10 years? I can't even live with them for 6 months! -大媽豬- 给 大媽豬 发送悄悄话 大媽豬 的博客首页 (80 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 10:54:27

I can understand you well, haha -HenryLi- 给 HenryLi 发送悄悄话 HenryLi 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 11:00:13

回复:I can understand you well, haha -大媽豬- 给 大媽豬 发送悄悄话 大媽豬 的博客首页 (76 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 11:02:55

生猛!哈 -红尘一笑- 给 红尘一笑 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 11:26:55

I know 大媽 needs that a lot, my sympathy. LOL -HenryLi- 给 HenryLi 发送悄悄话 HenryLi 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 11:29:34

你这个医生真是很正点,呵呵 -红尘一笑- 给 红尘一笑 发送悄悄话 (4 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 10:30:55

一笑: I am glad you agree with me. hehe -HenryLi- 给 HenryLi 发送悄悄话 HenryLi 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 10:42:25

我父母经常来我这里。 -知名度比较高- 给 知名度比较高 发送悄悄话 知名度比较高 的博客首页 (984 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 11:31:27

回复:我父母经常来我这里。 -tengtengma- 给 tengtengma 发送悄悄话 tengtengma 的博客首页 (144 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 11:38:21

,zt他们愿意帮我,我感恩。他们不愿帮我,是天经地义的。 -知道点- 给 知道点 发送悄悄话 (239 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 11:38:42

是啊。就是这个道理。 -知名度比较高- 给 知名度比较高 发送悄悄话 知名度比较高 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 11:44:12

Co: 父母把自己养大,不欠自己的。 -loti- 给 loti 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 11:42:07

你父母常来和与公婆同住差别也太大了吧 --:-)-- 给 -:-)- 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 11:44:35

差别是:如果是公婆,只能更客气。 -知名度比较高- 给 知名度比较高 发送悄悄话 知名度比较高 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 11:51:34

你同他们常住过?偶尔回去几个星期客气一下真不是难事 --:-)-- 给 -:-)- 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 11:53:42

这点我太同意了"如果是公婆,只能更客气。" -知道点- 给 知道点 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 11:56:26

CO:你父母常来和与公婆同住差别也太大了吧 -wo-8- 给 wo-8 发送悄悄话 wo-8 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 14:45:23

Then why 老人有"义务"stay in our place? -tengtengma- 给 tengtengma 发送悄悄话 tengtengma 的博客首页 (83 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 11:01:37

in my case -y2001- 给 y2001 发送悄悄话 (275 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 11:10:47

I know. That why I am asking why we have to let -tengtengma- 给 tengtengma 发送悄悄话 tengtengma 的博客首页 (127 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 11:31:37

我的父母,我不养,谁养? -知名度比较高- 给 知名度比较高 发送悄悄话 知名度比较高 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 11:32:03

Problem is they can support themself. -tengtengma- 给 tengtengma 发送悄悄话 tengtengma 的博客首页 (176 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 11:36:40

benefits certainly is more than the shortcomes -y2001- 给 y2001 发送悄悄话 (69 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 11:39:17

父母不缺钱,缺的是亲情。 -知名度比较高- 给 知名度比较高 发送悄悄话 知名度比较高 的博客首页 (218 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 11:48:30

Do your parents live with you for ever? -tengtengma- 给 tengtengma 发送悄悄话 tengtengma 的博客首页 (59 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 11:57:39

回复:老人不干活,看电视,是天经地义的。 -知道点- 给 知道点 发送悄悄话 (162 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 11:11:37

they are enjoying the fun of kids, not take care -y2001- 给 y2001 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 11:16:02

有人帮你看着小孩玩,小孩碰着哪了或摔了,起码第一时间能知道也是好事 -知道点- 给 知道点 发送悄悄话 (87 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 11:26:31

once my kid break the head at home because no one was -y2001- 给 y2001 发送悄悄话 (308 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 11:35:05

ZT"thanks very much to them for calling me"应该是这样吧:) -知道点- 给 知道点 发送悄悄话 (422 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 11:49:43

i am still learning, thank you so much -y2001- 给 y2001 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 11:59:55

我觉得你是很不易,10年..太长了. -知道点- 给 知道点 发送悄悄话 (76 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 12:06:28

想太多了。。先陪孩子,再做饭呗,就当没别人 -ianma- 给 ianma 发送悄悄话 (22 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 10:10:36

thank you very much. i will do like this and -y2001- 给 y2001 发送悄悄话 (21 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 10:23:06

其实到老人走了,你会发现其实只要他们在,就已经是帮忙了 -ianma- 给 ianma 发送悄悄话 (20 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 10:52:08

回复:其实到老人走了,你会发现其实只要他们在,就已经是帮忙了 -tengtengma- 给 tengtengma 发送悄悄话 tengtengma 的博客首页 (124 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 11:03:21

100% and totally agree kids are confused too which one -y2001- 给 y2001 发送悄悄话 (93 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 11:12:30

回复:dear XDJM I need a little support -googlelover- 给 googlelover 发送悄悄话 (76 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 10:12:04

Agree. 太自私了 -charmaine2- 给 charmaine2 发送悄悄话 (140 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 10:20:35

lucky you -y2001- 给 y2001 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 10:24:44

But did you let your 老人 stay for 10 years? -tengtengma- 给 tengtengma 发送悄悄话 tengtengma 的博客首页 (124 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 11:34:51

先陪孩子,让你劳工做饭,或者买来吃.. -红尘一笑- 给 红尘一笑 发送悄悄话 (34 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 10:21:46

cannot depend -y2001- 给 y2001 发送悄悄话 (24 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 10:25:30

那就买来吃吧, -红尘一笑- 给 红尘一笑 发送悄悄话 (196 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 10:29:20

it's more i am -y2001- 给 y2001 发送悄悄话 (390 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 10:38:20

sis,  -红尘一笑- 给 红尘一笑 发送悄悄话 (92 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 10:43:17

thanks my sis -y2001- 给 y2001 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 10:51:47

听你的意思,婆婆一周也就休息两个半天而已,如果自己不做就全家出去吃好了。 -meigui- 给 meigui 发送悄悄话 meigui 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 10:54:43

they rest everyday. -y2001- 给 y2001 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 11:14:32

Do you guys have this issue: When inlaws are here, 劳工are lazy to -tengtengma- 给 tengtengma 发送悄悄话 tengtengma 的博客首页 (142 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 11:07:02

理解你!有可能的话分开住吧,在附加找找老人公寓. -lwl- 给 lwl 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 11:16:09

not possible they are very clear -y2001- 给 y2001 发送悄悄话 (57 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 11:28:32

My inlaws said same thing. :-( -tengtengma- 给 tengtengma 发送悄悄话 tengtengma 的博客首页 (541 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 11:48:03

跟俺家有一拚! -凡人一个- 给 凡人一个 发送悄悄话 (1117 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 11:16:49

LG看你忙,他应该主动来帮你忙.两口子一起做,就当招待客人2个月,不过要是不10年那可是 -知道点- 给 知道点 发送悄悄话 (69 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 11:23:01

我老公早就已经被婆婆教育成油瓶倒了都不扶的人了。 -凡人一个- 给 凡人一个 发送悄悄话 (118 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 11:35:19

That's also one reason I don't want my inlaws here. -tengtengma- 给 tengtengma 发送悄悄话 tengtengma 的博客首页 (139 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 11:41:02

这样的LG真该休了他.对不起了MM. -知道点- 给 知道点 发送悄悄话 (174 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 12:01:56

very similar but i have deal with it everyday -y2001- 给 y2001 发送悄悄话 (135 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 11:31:20

If possible, take your kids to library, bookstores etc -lantian0212- 给 lantian0212 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 11:42:36

thanks i do -y2001- 给 y2001 发送悄悄话 (33 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 12:02:10

不帮忙的老人来了添乱,我太理解你了. -332299- 给 332299 发送悄悄话 (269 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 11:50:51

same -y2001- 给 y2001 发送悄悄话 (124 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 12:05:19

理解啊。 -greenonion- 给 greenonion 发送悄悄话 (375 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 14:16:04

大家不要怪老人,是丈夫不合格! -mochouhu- 给 mochouhu 发送悄悄话 (146 bytes) () 10/08/2008 postreply 14:50:43

回复:Step back and learn the lessons -Pense- 给 Pense 发送悄悄话 (1520 bytes) () 10/09/2008 postreply 09:55:01

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