回复：Step back and learn the lessons

My in-laws have been living with us for 2 and half years during the past decade. It is true that I felt more pressure than happiness. But I learned not to get really serious about the situation. I tried to understand why we can not live together happily and also tried to learn what the nature of human behaviors is. Stepping back and treating it as a scientific experiment or a learning experience have kept me calm most of the time. Imagine if I do not have this chance to live with them, I would not have understood many important aspect of human nature. I might want to bother my own children when I am old. After these years, both my wife and I learned that it is better for them to live separately while they are still able to. We understand now why human beings are better to live in a nuclear family condition when conditions allow. We also promise that we will behave very differently when we get old. Living with my in-laws gives my invaluable chances to know their lives and my
life as well. Now, they soon will going back. They are constantly talking about their next visit. I am thinking of what to say to them before they come next time: too much noise? not good for the growing-up of children? cause tension between me and my wife? can not entertain friends at home? too much extra cost? I will probably just be honest with them: I know you like to live here and you have the right. But I hope you will understand our difficulties and uneasiness, make sacrifice for your children and grandchildren.