Okay, first of all, pardon my language ( I don't have Chinese in-put).
from your description, you didn't enjoy the 2 dates you have had with him by far. Not only that, whatever he did / didn't do wheile you were out, you rensented. These should be enough of reasons for you to move on. I just think it's WAY TOO EARLY in the realtionship for you to attempt to change the man. Not a good sign.
I suggest that you move on. Meet as many men as possible. During the process, you will figure out what is tolerable for you and what isn't in a romantica relationship.