我又来了

谢谢姐妹们上次对我的建议。我又来了，看来要把这当娘家了。
真诚希望和大家成为好朋友。

找了个时间将我的concerns跟GG谈了，他回答挺让我满意的。

1，关于文化冲突的concern:
他回答：
Since I've met you I have realized how smart and hard working chinese people are... Before I never knew much about your beliefs and work ethics! I want to learn more about your culture! If we had a kid together I know our baby would learn both cultures.

I know that your roots and beliefs are with China. I TOTALLY understand that! I have no problem with that! I respect all of your beliefs, as you respect mine. Over time we will learn more about each others culture. I will always RESPECT your beliefs, that you don't have to worry about!

2.关于经济上的观念问题：
他回答说：＂If we were just "dating or b/f & g/f" and lived together I would probably pay for more things or more of the rent. We would not split everything right down the middle.

If we are married, each of our paychecks go into same account and we buy whatever we want. Pay the monthly bills then buy whatever you like. When you are married, you don't keep track of how much in the checking/savings account is mine and how much is yours it's "Ours"...

That's how I look at it, but not everyone is the same.

3. Third concern, I asked:"Chinese people have very tight tie with their parents, when they are getting older, children have the full respondbilities to support their parents financially or emotionally. Just like me and my sister and brother, they give or send money to my parents very often. That is the way we treat our parents even my mom and dad don't need our money. I know Americans have different way to treat their parents. I heard that an American old couple visited their son and stayed in his house for a month, they paid the rent and some utility. It is impossible in my family, during my parents' stay, I never let them pay a penny, and I just gave them $3000 to compensate their air fare. I think I have the responsibility to take care all the cost of their visit.
I don't know you are agree with me or not."

他回答：＂I agree with you on that! That is very generous of you!
I was thinking when we were looking at houses that we need to make sure the house is big enough if your parents wanted to come here and live with us. I've already thought about all of that....

My parents would never accept cash, they would accept gifts but never cash. They would probably never live with me either, just the way they are. But I think if my dad dies first I will have to take care of my mom which I have no problem doing. She will need help, I know this.＂

准备和男朋友一起买房子了，这几天看房子累死了。


上来给大家打个招呼，不要忘了我呀。

所有跟帖： 

• I go with you!!! Talk in front is a very good method. -螺丝螺帽- ♀ (0 bytes) () 09/03/2010 postreply 07:14:46

• 是呀，我们都很高兴开诚布公地谈了谈 -水晶果冻- ♀ (88 bytes) () 09/03/2010 postreply 07:18:40

• He sounds a very nice person... -螺丝螺帽- ♀ (0 bytes) () 09/03/2010 postreply 07:20:22

• 为你高兴，祝福! -翩翩~~- ♀ (0 bytes) () 09/03/2010 postreply 07:51:51

• 恭喜恭喜 -温馨秋月- ♀ (0 bytes) () 09/03/2010 postreply 08:02:27

• Sounds amazing. I am so happy for you! -deep-sea- ♀ (0 bytes) () 09/03/2010 postreply 08:23:55

• 谢谢大家：） -水晶果冻- ♀ (0 bytes) () 09/03/2010 postreply 08:25:36

• 恭喜了!遇到对的人其实挺简单的... -pretty_woman2- ♀ (0 bytes) () 09/03/2010 postreply 08:45:22