girlfriend, we are same age, she has went thru marraige, kid, and now she is at the edge of divorce. I always told her that being sad/angry/disappointed is to use other people's mistake to punish ourselves. However, when things come to myself, or my feeling get mixed it there, I cannot see things straight.
That is why I came to BBS to ask help from sisters, now I am really touched by the warmth here. Thank you again.