online dating 进展，姐妹们帮忙把把脉，呵呵

9/6注册用户，之后收到20几封message.C的message里留了msn,顺便就加上了。9/8开始和C聊天。他看起来很年轻，profile里面写的49岁，而我一直以为他39岁。要是早注意到他的年龄，我可能就不会回信。他比我大17岁。

不过聊天还是很开心，他说话慢条斯理，好像不怎么善于交谈。他在家里照顾她行动不便的84岁的母亲，工作是online炒股。

我一开始就喜欢他，和其他几个人看起来都没有什么可能性。不久我就把我profile上的照片拿掉了。

这是我拿掉照片后的对话

C Me Wish I could meet you now.
Me C Wish i could meet you this year
C Me I think I can.
C Me I will be patient for now (a)
Me C happy to hear
C Me I think I'd like to focus my attention on you.
Me C thank you. I am so happy
C Me I have to confess that I am afraid.
Me C afraid what?
C Me Afraid of failure.
C Me We might not be compatible...
Me C what makes you think that?i 'd like to try
C Me I've only had a few girlfriends before.
C Me So, I'm not so confident about that.
Me C maybe you need some encourage
C Me hahaha
C Me How?
Me C (})
C Me ({)
C Me I will have to put my mom to bed soon.
Me C ok

C Me She wants to watch a little more TV.
C Me Are you there? I'd like to ask a question.
Me C un
C Me Did you remove your photo from your profile at J C?
Me C yes
C Me Ummmmm...
C Me Does that have anything to do with me?




Me C i think my JC should be over, that is the reason
C Me and, ...
C Me why should it be over?
Me C from that website i got to know you and i chatted a lot with you.
C Me :d
Me C i dont need many man friends
C Me hahaha. Hope not.
C Me I haven't had any good experiences on the web site really.
C Me The girls don't seem sincere, or they disappear.
C Me Sometimes I am upset by it.
C Me So, I just try to have hope for the next time.

Me C that is ok.
C Me ok
C Me You've been sweet and kind to me.
C Me I feel comfortable.
C Me Not afraid that you will disappear.


今天的对话

C:
what do you want to do for the next years?
Me:
find a new life
C:
have any dream?
Me:
dont wanna dream alone
C:
:)
C:
you have some requirement?
Me:
requirement? for example?
C:
children, where to live, ...
Me:
i d like to have children.
Me:
i dont care where to live if there is love
C:
I wonder if I am too old for children
Me:
:D
Me:
need some courage?
C:
Ah, this is not a problem of courage.
C:
Also, I wonder where is a good place to raise a child.
C:
I do not think American society is good for that.



现在比较担心两件事：一个是他说他不喜欢在公司工作，但是在网上炒股，我担心他没有稳定的经济来源。
二：他说他怕自己太老了，可能不会有小孩，我担心他是真的不能有小孩，而不仅仅是年龄的原因。因为我觉得49岁还不算老。

但是这些事情都不知道怎么问才好。。。

所有跟帖： 

• 妹妹呀, 17岁相差不小呀. 有个医生朋友跟俺说: 古董车看上 -ChinaSmile999- ♀ (307 bytes) () 10/06/2008 postreply 22:52:30

• 你俩的生活目标不同，生活态度也有不小的差异，更别说还有代沟了 -alazycatinsd- ♀ (119 bytes) () 10/06/2008 postreply 22:54:06

• 谢谢笑9和懒猫的意见，正是因为犹豫所以才上来问，我会认真考虑:) -cycling- ♀ (0 bytes) () 10/06/2008 postreply 23:01:33

• 你说的这两个是很大的分歧。而且以他的年纪他不会再改变什么了。 -飞渡- ♀ (154 bytes) () 10/07/2008 postreply 06:51:08

• 不要紧,孙中山比国母大28. -牛B2008- ♀ (0 bytes) () 10/07/2008 postreply 09:38:04

• Age difference is too big...if it is not an issue -chaya- ♀ (127 bytes) () 10/07/2008 postreply 12:06:29

• My opinion, no need to continue. Don't waste your time on him. -shparis- ♀ (245 bytes) () 10/07/2008 postreply 13:19:27