I read your responses to others in the posts below.

You are confusing spiritual freedom with wanton disregard of work place rules and ethics, and in some respect, criminal offenses. What this guy is doing to you has nothing to do with his "style" or "free spirit", which I can only understand as excuses you have come up with for him out of your good hearted attempt for empathy. You are rationalizing your unwillingness to report him the HR or other authorities. By doing so, you are essentially tolerating and even encouraging him to further his offensive behaviors. You are doing a disservice to yourself and to all other women. The so called "free spirit", or this particular manifestation of  freedom to harass women, needs to be stopped. i am not sure why you are so convinced that HR would not be able to impact his behavior. If he is indeed that type of person, then a call to the police seems to be in order. Law enforcement does not always stop bad guys, but that is certainly not the reason not to report crimes so there is at least a chance to catch criminals and change their behavior in the future.  "Pit" or not, I find your making the "free spirit" excuse for him just as disturbing as the harassment itself.  

This morning, I joked around with you. This time, I am being serious. Now I have covered all my bases. 

Happy Holidays!

 

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• 而且，即使丈夫信任妻子让妻子自己处理，不等于丈夫对这么荒唐让妻子这么upset的行为没有反应不表达看法不提供建议吧。 -冷月亮~~- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/29/2016 postreply 15:18:42

• 我反正是没看懂。她好像没跟老公说？但就因为对方是文艺左派男就合理化对方的行动，我是坚决反对的。 -vest2005- ♀ (241 bytes) () 12/29/2016 postreply 15:23:22

• 她是不是在亚洲或国内？如果是的话就好理解一点，对好多事情的认识是不同的。 -2008VGirl- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/29/2016 postreply 15:26:58

• 说来美30年了。 -冷月亮~~- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/29/2016 postreply 15:29:18

• 在美国？这就有点匪夷所思了。下面的帖没太仔细看不过美国不管是学校还是公司这个都是很受重视的。 -2008VGirl- ♀ (58 bytes) () 12/29/2016 postreply 15:40:59

• 有个印象，大学这种事的发生不是特别有利于受害者。 -禾口- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/29/2016 postreply 15:51:47

• 是吗？我以前在学校读书时觉得多数教授们都是很小心谨慎的对待女同学 -2008VGirl- ♀ (62 bytes) () 12/29/2016 postreply 15:57:03

• 对学生可能会谨慎些。 -禾口- ♀ (155 bytes) () 12/29/2016 postreply 16:16:16

• 要遮丑一般是事情闹大了，她那个情况去HR咨询下HR应该会教她怎么处理 -2008VGirl- ♀ (29 bytes) () 12/29/2016 postreply 16:41:53

• 别， 别， 别。。。学生是教授的那啥的资源 -螺丝螺帽- ♀ (114 bytes) () 12/29/2016 postreply 17:57:57

• 那就是五十多了？那可能真不是性骚扰。就是遇到soul mate了 -此中有真意- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/29/2016 postreply 15:52:03

• yes, my H know. --worldance-- ♀ (441 bytes) () 12/29/2016 postreply 15:49:13

• If you clearly told him "stop", 诗也好问候也好都是骚扰。 -2008VGirl- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/29/2016 postreply 15:53:22

• 骚扰 yes, bad enough to report to police? --worldance-- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/29/2016 postreply 15:55:56

• 先HR，HR不作为再报警。任何让你不舒服的行为都应该停止。 -2008VGirl- ♀ (61 bytes) () 12/29/2016 postreply 15:59:24

• hm, i'll warn him again before i take that step. --worldance-- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/29/2016 postreply 16:09:44

• 你是吴娜吗？不知为什么你在这件事上让我想起她，只不过她以前在这儿都是用中文发帖 -2008VGirl- ♀ (32 bytes) () 12/29/2016 postreply 16:16:08

• don't know this ID. --worldance-- ♀ (278 bytes) () 12/29/2016 postreply 16:24:55

• 我没有建议报警因为听你说的这些HR 足够了。 -冷月亮~~- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/29/2016 postreply 16:32:54

• based on the guy's personality & --worldance-- ♀ (384 bytes) () 12/29/2016 postreply 16:52:31

• 报告HR一般是最有效的还不用自己与人正面冲突。要碰上我 -冷月亮~~- ♀ (38 bytes) () 12/29/2016 postreply 16:57:26

• 没法说了，你到底是想解决问题还是不想？大家给的建议 -2008VGirl- ♀ (104 bytes) () 12/29/2016 postreply 16:58:26

• You guys are all corp thinking, HR is the company police --worldance-- ♀ (173 bytes) () 12/29/2016 postreply 17:08:01

• 你自己制止不了他，又不让老公出手又觉得组织也起不了作用 -2008VGirl- ♀ (35 bytes) () 12/29/2016 postreply 17:12:54

• well, if i only want him get away from my life, --worldance-- ♀ (236 bytes) () 12/29/2016 postreply 17:19:31

• 我觉得我和你不在一个频道上，我可能不了解你的环境，不多说了希望你顺利解决问题。 -2008VGirl- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/29/2016 postreply 17:27:36

• 越说越想坑啦。还是到此为止吧，呵呵。 -冷月亮~~- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/29/2016 postreply 17:43:38

• it's interesting that how different mindsets can influence --worldance-- ♀ (108 bytes) () 12/29/2016 postreply 19:22:01

• 是很有趣。 -冷月亮~~- ♀ (255 bytes) () 12/30/2016 postreply 05:20:27

• 还有， 找HR第一目的是Stop him。 -冷月亮~~- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/30/2016 postreply 05:31:55

• With his personality, he could quit job tomorrow --worldance-- ♀ (432 bytes) () 12/30/2016 postreply 08:05:28

• 就因为你和他在gym里聊了两句就出来这些drama? -冷月亮~~- ♀ (113 bytes) () 12/30/2016 postreply 08:44:14

• come on, 50+, how much beauty left? --worldance-- ♀ (455 bytes) () 12/30/2016 postreply 09:39:43

• Awww... how sweet:)) -冷月亮~~- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/30/2016 postreply 11:49:24

• 相信你一定还是很美，什么时候给奔一个。 -冷月亮~~- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/30/2016 postreply 11:58:44

• 每对夫妻的关系不一样。丈夫毕竟不是妻子的监护人。有些丈夫处理这种事的能力可能还不如妻子。 -禾口- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/29/2016 postreply 15:48:22

• 发表意见提供建议和妻子的监护人中间十万八千里呢，能力大小也不妨碍发表意见啊。每对夫妻关系不一样倒是真的。 -冷月亮~~- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/29/2016 postreply 16:20:09

• 嗯，同意你。 -2008VGirl- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/29/2016 postreply 16:43:50

• 人与人不一样，不是每个丈夫都愿意提供建议的。有些人或许一听头就炸了，别说提建议了。 -禾口- ♀ (77 bytes) () 12/29/2016 postreply 16:48:33

• 人说了家里藏枪无数，不是一听头就炸的那种。不过，无所谓啦，这不是在灌水吗？哈哈。 -冷月亮~~- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/29/2016 postreply 16:53:25

• that's part of reasons for not want H involved on this. --worldance-- ♀ (199 bytes) () 12/29/2016 postreply 17:00:19

• 他怎么说的？ -冷月亮~~- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/29/2016 postreply 17:06:38

• show some "muscles", not very civilized way :) --worldance-- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/29/2016 postreply 17:12:59

• 说的很好 -2008VGirl- ♀ (169 bytes) () 12/29/2016 postreply 15:22:08

• 谢谢！本来是开玩笑的，不过既然当真了，就当真的说。 -vest2005- ♀ (0 bytes) () 12/29/2016 postreply 15:24:34