做女人的标准，不是好女人假定的那么简单

I can’t help writing something about Timeisticking’s “adventure because I don’t think it is an isolated case just for Timeisticking.

It seems so easy to define what a ‘good smart woman’ is, especially sexual aspect. But ask yourself, are you one always? Are your sisters and friends? Why and why not?

People know right from wrong and it is easier said than done. Some women confuse themselves in different circumstances and before different people. Some goes further and can’t control their animal but natural urge and let lust take the lead. They may know all the right things to do but can’t help becoming the fool because of the human weaknesses. Hence, most women seldom reveal their own evil or lusty or stupid side in the course of their lives, the course of their growth to become mature and wise.

If every woman is a model good woman, the world may become very dull and can be controlled by computer system. Then where can the 'good' be found by comparison? Thank God for creating different creatures!

We have to admit the world is colorful and women are different. Some women can be satisfied with one man and one man only for her entire life, some women can’t. Some needs men’s hearts, some just needs their bodies. That’s also why some women can be loyal even if the hu*****ands are out of track while some women will steal even if there is nothing wrong with their partners. Those who can maintain everything right are priceless and worth more than gold. Unfortunately, reality is the “good ones” are not necessarily lucky and happy and “bad ones’ are not definitely miserable ones either.

Important thing is to know what you need and want and correct the mistakes next time. If you want a relationship, don’t let casual sex get in the way. If you need some adventure, don’t need to claim you are so conservation, good, traditional, committed…whatever woman, and go for it. In some sense, that is much better to have an affair after you are verbally or legally committed.


So why ask different type of women to do the same thing? Why not let their own nature run the course first? People will learn, including adults, from others’ advice (eg. Parents, teacher, friends..) and their own experiences. Some experiences are successes that benefit people, and some are failures that can also benefit people.

Now to Timeisticking:

You know all the things you were supposed to do and therefore the long email but then things changed. You talked and you know what went wrong. So why take down your profile? It is not the internet or profile's fault. Having strong self-esteem and good control of the situation is the key.

There may be nothing wrong with the sex, but just dangerous not to be protected. Now that you learned and I doubt you would do the same again.

For future reference, confirm with yourself whether you plan for sex or not before you go, and control, control, control your own urge or instinct but stick to the plan. Maybe, you are not ready for love. You are still more physical. Otherwise that wouldn't have happened, and otherwise, you wouldn't have ignored your "loved" one just because he is currently unemployed.

So why force yourself? If you suppress the desire inside you, which is probably what you really need for now, haha, no matter who you meet next time, sex might still be the first thing to come cross your mind and take you over.

If you can't resist the temptation, then get it now :-) Then when you ARE ready for your Mr Right, you won't make the same mistakes again.

Attention: men, Chinese or Americans, will not marry a woman who has sex with them on the first few dates. Check online data, more than 90% accurate. No one wants a slut as wife. Simple as that.

PS: sorry that I've writen this up in a hurry. I need to leave for home now. Don't laugh at my mistakes.

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• thank you so much, first response tha i got with some warmth her -timeisticking- ♀ (236 bytes) () 01/28/2008 postreply 15:30:34

• 对不起，阿姐，以为你是捣乱的。因为你这样的case，实在是没见过 -sansemao- ♀ (702 bytes) () 01/28/2008 postreply 15:42:30

• 你太曲解sansemao了,她可没有对你mean或者cold.相反她的建议可 -alazycatinsd- ♀ (444 bytes) () 01/28/2008 postreply 15:43:37

• 因为太不寻常，大家怀疑一腔热情填了一个大坑。祝你好运！ -babylisa- ♀ (0 bytes) () 01/28/2008 postreply 15:48:52

• It is alright. I don't mind. I thought she was some fake id seek -sansemao- ♀ (53 bytes) () 01/28/2008 postreply 15:49:05

• We all learn from our mistakes. -dp123- ♀ (546 bytes) () 01/28/2008 postreply 15:43:48

• One last word - Love yourself before you love others -sansemao- ♀ (0 bytes) () 01/28/2008 postreply 15:45:44

• thank you , i know my mistake, talk the talk -timeisticking- ♀ (85 bytes) () 01/28/2008 postreply 15:48:16

• I understand. But if you don't do it, men will take advantage -sansemao- ♀ (88 bytes) () 01/28/2008 postreply 15:51:00

• agree, but sounding desperate is not attractive to men at all. -babylisa- ♀ (622 bytes) () 01/28/2008 postreply 15:55:45

• my mistake, should not go to the mr xxxx private party at the fi -timeisticking- ♀ (159 bytes) () 01/28/2008 postreply 15:56:56

• It's up to you. But men like that takes a long time to propose. -babylisa- ♀ (0 bytes) () 01/28/2008 postreply 15:58:42

• In us, educated and rich does not guarantee he is a nice -sansemao- ♀ (19 bytes) () 01/28/2008 postreply 16:00:57

• not only in us, I think it's true everywhere. -babylisa- ♀ (386 bytes) () 01/28/2008 postreply 16:07:43

• To be honest, I don't think he will call you if he hasn't in the -alazycatinsd- ♀ (0 bytes) () 01/28/2008 postreply 16:11:21

• I think i have realized that last night -timeisticking- ♀ (304 bytes) () 01/28/2008 postreply 16:23:53

• Yes, I truly wish you good luck on everything, not only on -alazycatinsd- ♀ (643 bytes) () 01/28/2008 postreply 16:32:56

• 'TImeisticking' 看了你前面的贴， -dp123- ♀ (365 bytes) () 01/28/2008 postreply 17:02:20

• Agree, we all learn from our mistakes. -dp123- ♀ (554 bytes) () 01/28/2008 postreply 15:48:02

• 俺一会没上网,怎么就白热化了? 还好秋月给浇了大壶水.同学们,做人要厚道哈...呵呵 -沙发土豆- ♀ (0 bytes) () 01/28/2008 postreply 17:35:16

• 请大家不要以为我反对你们的观点 -温馨秋月- ♀ (302 bytes) () 01/28/2008 postreply 18:26:01

• 也请斑竹莫怪 ：） -温馨秋月- ♀ (59 bytes) () 01/28/2008 postreply 18:31:59

• 秋月, 你说的好好!.其实timeisticking几乎是我们父母辈的人了, -沙发土豆- ♀ (123 bytes) () 01/28/2008 postreply 18:46:35

• Hum, I am in her generation, hope there is not a huge -gzlady- ♀ (41 bytes) () 01/28/2008 postreply 18:55:05

• 啊?真的? 从来没觉得哈,看来姐姐一直走在时代的前沿. -沙发土豆- ♀ (0 bytes) () 01/28/2008 postreply 19:48:37

• I totally agree with you :))) -gzlady- ♀ (184 bytes) () 01/28/2008 postreply 18:49:54