感恩节前的UPDATE - 给和俺一样在约会中摸索的JM们


Last Saturday, C went to floorball game in north CA. I went to play volleyball
with bunch of singles and then dinner. C kept text messaging me that day,
telling me the result of each game, etc, and he would be back that midnight.
I agreed to see him the second day, which was yesterday.

We had lunch, made love, watched a DvD called "The Veil" which was about
a love story, sad yet intriguing. Then he told me that he may go to Japan
this week, for his friend's wedding.

The point is that his friend didn't invite him, it was a Japanese girl who
knows the bride as well as him, that invited him. This girl, according to
my girlfriend B, is an easy girl who could jump to bed with anybody and doesn'
t care. She's already in Japan now. He was hesitating if he should go.

I told him that if the air fare is good, and with someone who could speak
Japanese, it would be fun for him to take this trip since he's never been
there before. I played cool, joking that if he cannot make a decision, then
he should toss a coin. I didn't say anything else on this topic. He said
he would decide on Monday, which is today.

But I didn't feel comfortable. I started regretting about saying "yes" to
him on his company's Christmas party. I feel cold and distancing.

不好意思, 上面用E文快一点. 刚刚他给我发电邮, 如下:
"I booked today flights to Japan over the long weekend. I'm gonna leave
on Wednesday and head back on Monday.
It going to be nice to see my friend again and I've never been to Japan
so two birds with one stone :)"

我则回道:
"I think it would be a very exciting trip for you to explore that interesting
country a little bit. You will be amazed. I will be around SD with a group
of friends in Laguna Mountain, hiking and maybe more. Finally it's the holiday
season. Too happy to think anything else to do :)"

我虽然没有计划和他过节(毕竟才约会了三个月), 但他的举动真的令我失望,心冷... 他倒是坦白,那个日
本女孩子名声很滥,他就不担心我会有激烈的反应么? 他还要带我去他们公司的圣诞
晚会...他的脑子好像进水了.那个什么圣诞晚会, 俺真的想打退堂鼓了.

看来, 他并不很在乎我. 这段关系可能不会长久, 如此下去要不多久我一定会离开他.


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Did he invite you to go to Japan with him? -poohbear222- 给 poohbear222 发送悄悄话 (310 bytes) () 11/19/2007 postreply 16:11:36

回复:No.He just told me his plan. So I think I probably -alazycatinsd- 给 alazycatinsd 发送悄悄话 alazycatinsd 的博客首页 (125 bytes) () 11/19/2007 postreply 16:16:15

看你的文章很久了,忍不住说2句。整个事情的责任在你,你 -nopainogain- 给 nopainogain 发送悄悄话 (124 bytes) () 11/19/2007 postreply 16:13:00

回复:俺没你幸运.男朋友不是说找就找到的.俺在学... -alazycatinsd- 给 alazycatinsd 发送悄悄话 alazycatinsd 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 11/19/2007 postreply 16:18:25

Be true to yourself, don't pretend to be -bluevelvet2007- 给 bluevelvet2007 发送悄悄话 (165 bytes) () 11/19/2007 postreply 16:26:53

其实你在用不在乎掩藏你渴望真爱的内心世界 -娘家亲人- 给 娘家亲人 发送悄悄话 (83 bytes) () 11/19/2007 postreply 16:29:46

回复:其实 -alazycatinsd- 给 alazycatinsd 发送悄悄话 alazycatinsd 的博客首页 (180 bytes) () 11/19/2007 postreply 16:34:38

为你高兴。我不会谈情说爱,不知咋回答:) -娘家亲人- 给 娘家亲人 发送悄悄话 (82 bytes) () 11/19/2007 postreply 16:41:27

回复:谢谢哈.可能真正的爱情是不用那么费劲的.一不留神它就来了 -alazycatinsd- 给 alazycatinsd 发送悄悄话 alazycatinsd 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 11/19/2007 postreply 16:44:17

总让你伤心的,不应该是你的爱情。再耐心等等。会来的 :) -飞渡- 给 飞渡 发送悄悄话 飞渡 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 11/19/2007 postreply 17:31:35

回复:谢谢飞渡JJ的鼓励. 俺一个人惯了,还真不知道啥是爱情... -alazycatinsd- 给 alazycatinsd 发送悄悄话 alazycatinsd 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 11/19/2007 postreply 17:41:16

看来我还是对C类人有点先见之明,请看我在八月28日给你的会贴 -gzlady- 给 gzlady 发送悄悄话 (470 bytes) () 11/19/2007 postreply 16:38:19

回复:Thanks. He is a good playmate and I had fun as well. -alazycatinsd- 给 alazycatinsd 发送悄悄话 alazycatinsd 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 11/19/2007 postreply 16:40:55

If that is what you choose, that is nothing with that -gzlady- 给 gzlady 发送悄悄话 (87 bytes) () 11/19/2007 postreply 16:44:24

Sorry, i meant "that is nothing wrong with it" -gzlady- 给 gzlady 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 11/19/2007 postreply 16:46:05

Well, that is the best fit for my current situation -alazycatinsd- 给 alazycatinsd 发送悄悄话 alazycatinsd 的博客首页 (37 bytes) () 11/19/2007 postreply 16:48:13

你的帖子从头到尾都很理智,可见你并没有完全陷入热恋。 -麻花辫- 给 麻花辫 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 11/19/2007 postreply 16:51:24

回复:让俺陷入热恋,那可是得费点劲 - 俺不会跟不热恋俺的人热恋,自我保护哈. -alazycatinsd- 给 alazycatinsd 发送悄悄话 alazycatinsd 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 11/19/2007 postreply 16:55:51

正好换一个,不过得耍耍c 哈 -麻花辫- 给 麻花辫 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 11/19/2007 postreply 17:02:21

回复:看你说的,俺得先有那个空不是? -alazycatinsd- 给 alazycatinsd 发送悄悄话 alazycatinsd 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 11/19/2007 postreply 17:05:54

I understand that, and I believe that I know your situation -gzlady- 给 gzlady 发送悄悄话 (10 bytes) () 11/19/2007 postreply 16:51:49

俺觉得你太含蓄了.不高兴就直接告诉他.看他反应. -online_dating- 给 online_dating 发送悄悄话 (67 bytes) () 11/19/2007 postreply 16:47:16

回复:嘿嘿,啥叫秋后算账?俺先不打草惊蛇,准备好了再下手:) -alazycatinsd- 给 alazycatinsd 发送悄悄话 alazycatinsd 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 11/19/2007 postreply 16:51:04

我遇到过一个爱捉迷藏的家伙,真没时间和精力和他玩.最 -online_dating- 给 online_dating 发送悄悄话 (65 bytes) () 11/19/2007 postreply 16:59:00

从你们那里去日本坐飞机得有10个小时吧,去一趟就呆一星期不到,C也太好玩爱花钱了。 -gp88- 给 gp88 发送悄悄话 (81 bytes) () 11/19/2007 postreply 16:50:33

所以说俺不爽呢.玩也得晚出个品来不是,就这么着了,俺不玩了! -alazycatinsd- 给 alazycatinsd 发送悄悄话 alazycatinsd 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 11/19/2007 postreply 16:53:01

他的脑子好像进水的程度超乎人的想象。我觉得他不是故意玩你 -acme- 给 acme 发送悄悄话 acme 的博客首页 (184 bytes) () 11/19/2007 postreply 16:51:33

这个人拎不清,不好玩就不玩了.旗鼓相当才好玩的.谢谢JJ. -alazycatinsd- 给 alazycatinsd 发送悄悄话 alazycatinsd 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 11/19/2007 postreply 16:57:47

完全同意。acme,看了你说的那个嫁马来西亚富豪的故事,挺好玩的,还有别的吗? -麻花辫- 给 麻花辫 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 11/19/2007 postreply 16:58:27

google李春平,you will find something interesting -acme- 给 acme 发送悄悄话 acme 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 11/19/2007 postreply 17:52:12

对!孔子曰:玩玩要找男孩,结婚要找男人 -娘家亲人- 给 娘家亲人 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 11/19/2007 postreply 17:17:09

讨厌!这下彻底说不清我不是你了。;-) -acme- 给 acme 发送悄悄话 acme 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 11/19/2007 postreply 17:49:52

你本来就说不清楚,要说清楚也要我去说。 -娘家亲人- 给 娘家亲人 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 11/19/2007 postreply 18:01:15

三个月就上床了?世界真的变化得快 -悉尼骆驼祥子- 给 悉尼骆驼祥子 发送悄悄话 悉尼骆驼祥子 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 11/19/2007 postreply 17:41:55

认识7个月, 约会3个月.您老是从哪个坟头儿冒出来的? -alazycatinsd- 给 alazycatinsd 发送悄悄话 alazycatinsd 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 11/19/2007 postreply 17:46:10

You let people walk all over you. Your fault -esmie- 给 esmie 发送悄悄话 esmie 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 11/19/2007 postreply 18:42:33

Take it easy! I met my hubby 7 years ago. It took him -xueen- 给 xueen 发送悄悄话 xueen 的博客首页 (226 bytes) () 11/20/2007 postreply 07:12:57

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