Dating阶段“性”还是不“性” (just a general comment)

来源: acme 于 2007-11-14 05:52:05 [] [博客] [旧帖] [给我悄悄话] 阅读数 : (780 bytes)

这在决定加入dating的“市场”之前，对自己的性观念，对婚前性行为的观点，自己在这个问题上是保守(conservative)的还是激进(liberal)的, 最好自己先想想清楚。

否则面对对方一个有血有肉的大活人，孤男寡女相处在一起，在那“关键时刻”再考虑，是不是晚点儿? 再加上是外族裔,心里感觉对人家的风俗一贯不了解（我个人认为treat them the same way as to Chinese guy）. 问教会，问朋友，问男人，问女人，肯定是各方面由于基本价值观不同，给的答案是各个方向都有，岂不更加无所适从。

另外我观察，有的女人（大多数）有了那种关系后，对男人容易更加attached, 影响判断。有的女人判断力和决断力不受这个影响。这两种女人就不一定适用同一种原则。对吧。

无论如何，这个阶段很多uncertainty, 难保心理上不思来想去，患得患失。Sex is like money, when you don’t have it, that is all you think about. ;-)

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• Rule of thumb -红尘一笑- ♀ 给 红尘一笑 发送悄悄话 (34 bytes) () 11/14/2007 postreply 06:17:07

• Shall the frequency of the date be factored in? ;-D -acme- ♀ 给 acme 发送悄悄话 acme 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 11/14/2007 postreply 06:48:08

• ha~ of course. A lady shouldn't -红尘一笑- ♀ 给 红尘一笑 发送悄悄话 (69 bytes) () 11/14/2007 postreply 06:59:22

• oh. In your pace, 2.5 weeks will be the testing period -acme- ♀ 给 acme 发送悄悄话 acme 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 11/14/2007 postreply 07:06:15

• Then I did follow this rule :D -alazycatinsd- ♀ 给 alazycatinsd 发送悄悄话 alazycatinsd 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 11/14/2007 postreply 09:32:16

• if the moment is right, having sex is the right thing to do, why -wxc610- ♀ 给 wxc610 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 11/14/2007 postreply 07:04:15

• As long as you have your own principle, you are OK. -acme- ♀ 给 acme 发送悄悄话 acme 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 11/14/2007 postreply 07:06:52

• sex is not an only key to a successful relationship. -wxc610- ♀ 给 wxc610 发送悄悄话 (137 bytes) () 11/14/2007 postreply 07:20:03

• Not an issue , if you know how to do safe sex -twc- ♂ 给 twc 发送悄悄话 twc 的博客首页 (96 bytes) () 11/14/2007 postreply 07:23:11

• At least, no sex before 3rd date. -Pollyli- ♀ 给 Pollyli 发送悄悄话 Pollyli 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 11/14/2007 postreply 07:49:53

• You are two dates earlier than红尘一笑。呵呵！ -acme- ♀ 给 acme 发送悄悄话 acme 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 11/14/2007 postreply 08:30:16

• Agree with "treat them the same way as to Chinese guy" -gzlady- ♀ 给 gzlady 发送悄悄话 (263 bytes) () 11/14/2007 postreply 07:52:19

• well said... 到时候再考虑确实晚了点，但同时也别抱有性 -菲妈妈- ♀ 给 菲妈妈 发送悄悄话 菲妈妈 的博客首页 (20 bytes) () 11/14/2007 postreply 08:18:30

• My point is: there is no specific standard/rule for dating Cauca -gzlady- ♀ 给 gzlady 发送悄悄话 (159 bytes) () 11/14/2007 postreply 08:20:55

• 没有一定的规矩，顺其自然就好了 -臭臭妈妈- ♀ 给 臭臭妈妈 发送悄悄话 臭臭妈妈 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 11/14/2007 postreply 09:01:32

• ZT：没有一定的规矩，顺其自然就好了. If it's love at the 1st sight, -MaryLiu-Brazil- ♀ 给 MaryLiu-Brazil 发送悄悄话 (41 bytes) () 11/14/2007 postreply 09:23:45

• Agreed with you, however, we should distinguish love and -gzlady- ♀ 给 gzlady 发送悄悄话 (205 bytes) () 11/14/2007 postreply 09:38:13

• MOSTLY, if people fall in love in the first sight -fanfan88- ♀ 给 fanfan88 发送悄悄话 (169 bytes) () 11/14/2007 postreply 09:44:00

• Yes, that is what I told my daughter, but there is always -gzlady- ♀ 给 gzlady 发送悄悄话 (120 bytes) () 11/14/2007 postreply 09:55:42

• Xixi, that's not easy to do ya... I'd teach my daughter -MaryLiu-Brazil- ♀ 给 MaryLiu-Brazil 发送悄悄话 (91 bytes) () 11/14/2007 postreply 09:45:58

• Yes, agree, it doesn't happen very often :))) -gzlady- ♀ 给 gzlady 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 11/14/2007 postreply 09:57:17

• Follow the heart, let it happens when it's the right moment. -everafter- ♀ 给 everafter 发送悄悄话 (53 bytes) () 11/14/2007 postreply 15:59:06

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