More Update: 下次见面没有时间表

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先万分感谢各位热心的姐妹的中肯的建议和看法, 我真觉得在和好朋友们说知心话
一样!

更多的update 如下:

昨天午间和新帅哥吃饭, 也算相谈甚欢, 他下午就发EMAIL 来问我周末可否有空一
起爬山. 我回说周六要和女儿, 妈妈看牙医, 但周日我愿意和他出去. 这样的天气
爬山我可能会晕倒, 若他愿意我们可以等到凉快一些的季节, 希望他可以提供一些
别的建议. 现在等他的回音.

晚上下班后赴C的咖啡约. 路上买了两个SUBWAY, 我也很饿. (补充: 前天, 我才知
道女友B 没有和C明确地说我有个女儿, 我同他出去这几次也没有机会提到, 觉得这
很不好, 赶紧利用EMAIL的机会顺便问他: I don't ever remember if I mentioned
that I have a 10 year-old daughter... 两小时后他回说: No, you didn't tell
me that, but I guess she is a 5th grader now? I bet she is a smart little
girl since she has your smart genes... 然后他convince 我能否照喝咖啡. 我
当然愿意了).

时间有限, 我还是敲英文吧, 这样快些, 请见谅 :)

Exactly before I left work, my girlfriend B sent me email asking me how's
going between me and C. I replied that he is a nice, decent guy but I don't
think he is that much into me as I am into him. She suggested me not give
up, saying that she sensed C must like me a lot, otherwise he wouldn't ask
me out (B has known C over 4 years now). I told her I will still go out
with him, but with not much expectation. B said she has some friends who
do sailings and she would like to invite me and C some weekends later on.
She is such a nice girl and I am very lucky to have a friend like her.

So I went for coffee. C was there already and gave me a hug, seemed very
happy to see me. My heart somehow was lightened and cheered up as well :)
He bought coffee and pastry and we sat at the patio outside of the coffee
shop. The conversation was first bit shy, then relaxed and free, talking
about the work, the comparison between Finland and China on naming the children/
pets, which made us laugh a lot.

Then we went to the bookstore next to the coffee shop. I got "A Year in
Provence" first. Then we went through those books by theme. Since I mentioned
him Korean War last week which my hometown was involved, he led me to the
War theme first and introduced me "the Winter War" between Finland and the
Soviet Union by the end of 1939 and 1940, from which I learned the term
"Molotov Cocktail", and I also learned the Finns spirit of Independence.

Then we saw a book talking about Dick Cheney. He joked Cheney's first name,
which made me slap his butt with my book and laughed. In Joke theme, he
saw a joke in a book and asked me "If an elephant sees a naked man, what
question does the elephant ask him?" I had no clue, he looked at the book
and answered: "how come you could breath with such a little thing?". I got
it immediately and laughed, it remind me a joke I ran into the other day
on the Internet: "A farmer got a high-tech milking machine and he wanted
to show it to his wife. But his wife was not at home. He was so bored waiting
for his wife and he decided to test the machine on his dick. It was so good,
even feeling better than being with his wife, he thought. But that machine
wouldn't come off no matter how hard he tried. He freaked and called the
customer service, of course he didn't say the machine was on his dick, he
lied that part to the customer representative. So the customer representative
told him not to worry, the machine would take off automatically once it
had 1 gallon milk inside it."

He was amused, and asked:"what happened after that?" and then burst into
laughter.

Then he told me he will be in an event with his friends in Nevada called
"the burning man". It would be in a desert for 4 days, only 1.5 gallons
of water per day. I knew nothing about this event, but I was devastated
that no shower there for 4 days, with high temperature in the desert???
People must be smelly and what is the point for that? He was so good in
looking for info by digging a travel guide from the bookshelf and showed
me that event, then I knew there will be a lot art show over there, with
about 25000 people being crazy and silly yet fun. I insisted that no shower
for 4 days will be horrible, at least for me. 当我一边说一边往前走的时候
, 他带了些倔强地跟着我, 眼睛睁得园园地, 说:" but it would be a lot fun still!
" I took a look at him, with a smiling, then I shrugged, without saying
anything. How childish, and cute he was.

在去书店前吃东西时, 刚吃完时, 他动手收拾垃圾, 我就站起来, 以为该去书店了
, 他赶紧说: "Oh I am not in a hurry, I just want to clean these stuff for
now. We can take more time here." 就又聊了一会儿. 在书店大约一小时后, 我
见他拿出手机看时间, 就建议说我们该走了吧, 他说不急, 他愿意多待久一点儿,
只是想知道时间.

都十点了, 我们才往外走.

他送我到我的停车位, 忽然想起什么, 问: "Did you made any decision on which
car you'll get?" I said: " yeah, most probably I will get a BMW 5 series".
He paused a little bit and said: "that is cool. But you know usually cars
are not good investment options - you are a good investor and you've been
doing great on that". I paused and replied: " I know, I know. But I have
my concern here that after 8 years or so, my daughter would start driving
and she could drive that BMW, which will still be safe enough for her. I
don't want her to drive a Japanese car. Then I would consider buying a Porsche
myself... I am joking. no Porsche, I haven't thought about that far yet".
He said it sounds a good plan. Then I said:" I got to go now. Thank you
so much for tonight" and then we hugged bye. I hugged him closely, from
my heart, saying "Take care". His last word was "Good night".

所以, 没有下次约会的时间表. 也许没有下次吧, 我有些伤感地想. 但无论如何,
这都是一个美好的体验.

再次向个位道歉我的中英文混杂的贴子. 我真的没有多少约会的经验, 所以厚着脸
皮讲这么多.

我现在洗耳恭听各位的高见 :-)

所有跟帖： 

• He seems to me like a slow cooker. But that does -sansemao- ♀ (153 bytes) () 08/22/2007 postreply 09:19:40

• Thanks sansemao. I am following your advice now :) -alazycatinsd- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/22/2007 postreply 10:16:06

• 听上去有戏！继续努力，至于下一个约会，他会和你联系的，不一定这次就说定 -臭臭妈妈- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/22/2007 postreply 09:19:46

• Thanks for your encouragement! Will take it easy :) -alazycatinsd- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/22/2007 postreply 10:17:24

• kind of wired and uncomfortable to read this dating story -feidu- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/22/2007 postreply 09:23:32

• 过程看起来没觉得有什么不好。 -GP88- ♀ (343 bytes) () 08/22/2007 postreply 09:24:44

• 还有你认为在沙漠里的条件不可忍受，他觉得FUN。MAYBE 你们的喜好不一样。 -GP88- ♀ (69 bytes) () 08/22/2007 postreply 09:28:37

• 不过我觉得这些差异没有什么，世上哪有完全一样的人，如果有 -臭臭妈妈- ♀ (64 bytes) () 08/22/2007 postreply 09:31:11

• the telling dirty jokes part is little bit odd for me -boredatwork- ♀ (99 bytes) () 08/22/2007 postreply 09:29:16

• yeah, i can't get that part too. -飞渡- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/22/2007 postreply 09:33:14

• 我也觉得是这样。 -小桃子妈- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/22/2007 postreply 10:01:33

• I would count them as flirts. Do friends flirt? -alazycatinsd- ♀ (0 bytes) () 08/22/2007 postreply 10:18:31

• Yes, and pass dirty jokes around -boredatwork- ♀ (231 bytes) () 08/22/2007 postreply 10:25:15

• Thanks AP! Because I have a kid -alazycatinsd- ♀ (213 bytes) () 08/22/2007 postreply 10:30:19

• Very good story. I laughed of your milk machine joke. -AP24- ♀ (532 bytes) () 08/22/2007 postreply 09:41:08

• Thanks everyone! I am doing very well -alazycatinsd- ♀ (1404 bytes) () 08/22/2007 postreply 10:14:49

• 回复：Thanks everyone! I am doing very well -happy1014- ♀ (21 bytes) () 08/22/2007 postreply 10:44:29

• No he didn't married before. His last -alazycatinsd- ♀ (115 bytes) () 08/22/2007 postreply 11:35:24

• You are a successful and confident woman -what_name_to_use- ♀ (171 bytes) () 08/22/2007 postreply 10:44:52

• Thank you for the encouragement! I wish -alazycatinsd- ♀ (65 bytes) () 08/22/2007 postreply 11:36:46

• Proud of you, we were in the same boat, and I sincerely -gzlady- ♀ (743 bytes) () 08/22/2007 postreply 11:58:39