difficult choice

来源: yellowroseriver 于 2007-07-29 08:56:50 [] [旧帖] [给我悄悄话] 阅读数 : (1939 bytes)

Dear JMs,
I've been visiting this forum almost everyday. I feel here is a
very friendly community for each other to discuss problems in our lives.
There is something going on in my life, and I would like to seek for
some suggestions, if possible.

There are two male friends of mine, who have been friends and close to me.
A is working full-time in IT field, just starting his career, never married. We knew each other through the university for 3 years. He has heart related family disease, I am not sure whether it's serious, but he had been sick before. But he is a trustworthy and reliable guy. B is still studying at the university, he worked part-time at where I work, we know each other for 1 year.He is divorced, and his child is 4 years old,living with the ex-wife.

I am considering to start dating and have a family in the next 2 or 3 years if possible. Both A and B have showed me their interests, and I've gone out with both of them. A doesn't talk much, doesn't express his feelings that directly, but give me a safe feeling, we talk mostly about work. B and I have lots of interests in common, and we talked a lot about music, polities, sports, and so on. The communication is much better than what I have with A.He is also honest, and good at express his feelings. I can say we have a lot more chemistry inbetween. But I just don't know whether it's complicated to date a divorced man, also he's not into the job market yet, can't afford as much time and money into the relationship. Sometimes I even have to cover his part when we go out. Although I know this is temporary problem, he still has 2 years to finish school.

I would like to ask JMs, what do you think is most important for a family to work out? What kinds of personality did you seek for a hu*****and? I just feel confused and don't know which one I should choose to be a boyfriend.

Thanks very very much!

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• 选一个你爱的,爱你的伴侣 -天涯人远- ♀ 给 天涯人远 发送悄悄话 天涯人远 的博客首页 (175 bytes) () 07/29/2007 postreply 09:04:36

• This is a hard choice. -Princess- ♀ 给 Princess 发送悄悄话 Princess 的博客首页 (145 bytes) () 07/29/2007 postreply 09:05:49

• I don't have to -yellowroseriver- ♀ 给 yellowroseriver 发送悄悄话 (394 bytes) () 07/29/2007 postreply 09:11:37

• I think it also depends on what is your most concerning in mger -子夏浮云- ♀ 给 子夏浮云 发送悄悄话 子夏浮云 的博客首页 (248 bytes) () 07/29/2007 postreply 09:15:25

• Does passion last long? -yellowroseriver- ♀ 给 yellowroseriver 发送悄悄话 (96 bytes) () 07/29/2007 postreply 09:19:47

• Tha t is a good question! -子夏浮云- ♀ 给 子夏浮云 发送悄悄话 子夏浮云 的博客首页 (268 bytes) () 07/29/2007 postreply 09:26:05

• 回复：Does passion last long? -yellowroseriver- ♀ 给 yellowroseriver 发送悄悄话 (394 bytes) () 07/29/2007 postreply 09:48:18

• A,cos u said "he give me a safe feeling' -ggzr- ♀ 给 ggzr 发送悄悄话 ggzr 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 07/29/2007 postreply 09:20:14

• 偶是觉得哈,一个男人如果连自己都照顾不了,更别指望他能 -甜酒甜- ♀ 给 甜酒甜 发送悄悄话 甜酒甜 的博客首页 (298 bytes) () 07/29/2007 postreply 09:42:42

• 回复：偶是觉得哈,一个男人如果连自己都照顾不了,更别指望他能 -yellowroseriver- ♀ 给 yellowroseriver 发送悄悄话 (498 bytes) () 07/29/2007 postreply 09:53:24

• 有的可以做朋友,有的可以做伴侣,要有所区分的好~ -甜酒甜- ♀ 给 甜酒甜 发送悄悄话 甜酒甜 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 07/29/2007 postreply 09:55:54

• None of them are good. It a big world. -简娜- ♀ 给 简娜 发送悄悄话 简娜 的博客首页 (1 bytes) () 07/29/2007 postreply 10:54:35

• 不要只在A和B之间选吧? 两条腿的蛤蚂不好找, 两条腿的人多了. -小妹妹~~- ♀ 给 小妹妹~~ 发送悄悄话 小妹妹~~ 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 07/29/2007 postreply 12:19:44

• :=) -yellowroseriver- ♀ 给 yellowroseriver 发送悄悄话 (97 bytes) () 07/29/2007 postreply 16:43:19

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