I like to have a good man in my life and I dont need his money.

but I am not comfatable to let him and his family move into my house to share what I already have. for him it is a upgrade to his life - jump into a nice house without worrying about downpayment stuff. for me it is a donwgrade to my life. although I can get a man who loves me. but I have to squeeze my kids to smaller living space stuff. I am not that unconditionally loving him.