I understand your feeling, I think having the same

goal and expectable is very important for a couple.

I almost married a Chinese man in year 2000, in that time, I was in my mid thirty, my daughter was in middle school already. He is an outstanding person, I liked him a lot. He married once, but didn't had any kid, and he wished to have two more children in our new family. First, I thought that was fine with me. We engaged, and we even put in a down payment to build to big house in northern VA. But a day after we signed the contract for building the new house, I got very worry, just like you, I planned to relax after my daughter going to college. I thought about my concerts over and over again. I had to break the contract for the new house, and told him I can't handle two more kids. And he didn't want to give in either, still insisted that we should have two kids in the future. After a few months that I broke the contract for the new house, our relationship ended. It was sad, but we both ended up to find a better match life partner. Now, he is a proud father of two children, and I married to an American guy who has two children in his previous marriage, and my hu*****and and I both agreed that we would not have any more child in our marriage

I told you about my story is not trying to tell you break up with your fiancée, it is very hard to find someone whom you truly love. I just wanted to point out that a couple should compromise on the important issues. And it would be better if they can have the same expectation and goal in life.

I hope everything will work out for you.

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• Sorry, typo, expectation, not expectable :0 -gzlady- ♀ (0 bytes) () 05/26/2007 postreply 17:12:43