Kids aren't everything . . .

That is one of the great virtues of Chinese women - they give everything to their children and leave nothing for themselves.  You have a life to live too.  Your happiness is just as important as your children's.  Vast majority of Chinese kids generally turn out fine.  Don't worry about that.  As they say here, once a cheater always a cheater.  If the hu*****and knows that he can get away with these types of things and he knows that you don't want a divorce, he will do it again and again.  Just like if you are speeding and never get a ticket, I'm sure you will keep doing it.