KongKong needed help and that luck to meet J

Very busy at work today and things went wrong in the settlemen of my property, but I still want to say something about the story of Kongkong. Sorry to type in not so perfect English, but it is much quicker.

What Kong Kong told us is her journey, it is not D's journey in the marriage. Kong Kong was sharing how she felt in the marraige. As a woman, I identify with most of her feelings and decisions. She didn't try to establish herself as a hero. In the marriage, she was lost, she was humiliated by a hu*****and of 10 years who didn't even want to have a child with her,  What the...?  what was D staying in the marriage for? He was just waiting for an opportunity.

Kongkong had depression, anyone who has not experienced depression luckily doesn't understand what it feels like. It is like you are sinking in the ocean, sometimes you just let it go to numb the pain and sometimes you try to grab onto something. whatever causes depression of that degree, something needs to happen to save her and thanks God, J is there for her. That's Kongkong's luck, and I am so relieved for her. 

I don't see much point to discuss whether it is moral for KongKong to have an affair when J while she was legally married. The point is her marriage was dead due to one single factor D doesn't want to have a child with her. End of story.

 

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• 我想大家的意思是，人人都有权重新生活。婚姻s了，就该合法结束，而不是作机会主义者。 -MJ2001- ♀ (0 bytes) () 02/15/2012 postreply 17:31:31

• Two wrongs don't make a right. 结局完满不见得因为行为正确。 但是生活是复杂的， -蓝枪鱼- ♀ (134 bytes) () 02/15/2012 postreply 17:51:19

• I don't even think KK is one of the two wrongs. -startover12- ♀ (441 bytes) () 02/15/2012 postreply 17:59:16

• 那我是不是可以假设D不想要孩子， 对婚姻的放弃是因为KK的什么原因？ -蓝枪鱼- ♀ (177 bytes) () 02/15/2012 postreply 18:52:25

• so what? -startover12- ♀ (221 bytes) () 02/15/2012 postreply 19:00:24

• 既然假设永远无法证实， 我们就不必继续假设下去了。 ：） MM玩好， 我走了。 -蓝枪鱼- ♀ (0 bytes) () 02/15/2012 postreply 19:07:48

• I don't think I have assumed anything. -startover12- ♀ (113 bytes) () 02/15/2012 postreply 19:11:05

• 谢谢MM. 有空常来玩。：） 我的意思是说， 家务事我们外人很难厘清问题的根源， 如果 -蓝枪鱼- ♀ (25 bytes) () 02/15/2012 postreply 19:14:26

• I am JJ :-most times, 根源doesn't exist, accumulation of this and -startover12- ♀ (0 bytes) () 02/15/2012 postreply 19:18:52

• 同学,你当J的出现是巧合吗?depression的人落水随便一抓就是一条金草,太lucky了吧? -在座- ♀ (0 bytes) () 02/15/2012 postreply 17:59:53

• Her sister and S were also her support at the time. -startover12- ♀ (362 bytes) () 02/15/2012 postreply 18:05:28

• 你太不懂KK了.建议学习她今天的新贴.她父母兄弟都不原谅她, 按理说找到金主,家人为她高兴才对. -在座- ♀ (0 bytes) () 02/15/2012 postreply 18:11:37

• As she said in the beginning, she didn't tell her own family -startover12- ♀ (79 bytes) () 02/15/2012 postreply 18:24:06

• 还是那句话，没有KK的暗示，肯定，默许甚至鼓励，J怎么会去追一个在婚姻内的人？ -美妙- ♀ (0 bytes) () 02/15/2012 postreply 18:09:52

• It is a dead marraige, J knew it. -startover12- ♀ (0 bytes) () 02/15/2012 postreply 18:36:34

• S mentioned that when J asked where D was. -startover12- ♀ (0 bytes) () 02/15/2012 postreply 18:47:13

• 真要按照神圣的道德标准，没有一个人能合格的，所以都不要50步笑100步了。 -Oona- ♀ (0 bytes) () 02/15/2012 postreply 18:02:38

• 人写小说写那么多铺垫就是为了后来的闪亮出场.可惜还一大把喊冤的. -在座- ♀ (0 bytes) () 02/15/2012 postreply 18:04:39

• dear, 早期这种事情很多的，只不过她攀了个高枝所以大家更加不平吧了。 -Oona- ♀ (0 bytes) () 02/15/2012 postreply 18:05:53

• 没有呀.攀了就攀了吧,把EX公婆写成了高攀的动力. -在座- ♀ (0 bytes) () 02/15/2012 postreply 18:07:55

• 她的例子是最典型的被国人痛骂的那种，所以当初离婚的时候众叛亲离，也挺不容易的。 -Oona- ♀ (0 bytes) () 02/15/2012 postreply 18:11:41

• 说明国人还不为金所迷惑. -在座- ♀ (0 bytes) () 02/15/2012 postreply 18:13:41

• 是的，我觉得她是多年来很委屈。所以要把那些委屈都倒出来。只能说她最后一步走错，有理变成没理。也很冤。 -绿树茵茵- ♀ (0 bytes) () 02/15/2012 postreply 18:17:18

• 这么聪明的人， 不是高枝会攀吗？ 但和公婆没关系。 -密码设置- ♀ (0 bytes) () 02/15/2012 postreply 18:10:09

• Are you ladies for real? If as you said, KK is smart -startover12- ♀ (346 bytes) () 02/15/2012 postreply 18:16:07

• KK不需要你的祝福,她知道她要什么.我们都很佩服她聪明而且技术高超. -在座- ♀ (0 bytes) () 02/15/2012 postreply 18:20:56

• I still wish her all the best for the rest of her life. -startover12- ♀ (48 bytes) () 02/15/2012 postreply 18:22:26

• How about those people who helped her and loved her before? -在座- ♀ (0 bytes) () 02/15/2012 postreply 18:25:32

• If you mean D's parents, they did that to help their son. -startover12- ♀ (242 bytes) () 02/15/2012 postreply 18:33:01

• 照你这么说还需要结婚吗， 不就是见谁爱谁， 有婚没婚的都不是个问题。 -密码设置- ♀ (0 bytes) () 02/15/2012 postreply 18:21:29

• 你能见谁爱谁吗? -startover12- ♀ (0 bytes) () 02/15/2012 postreply 18:25:54

• 吸引力是双方都没有婚姻的人之间的事。 -密码设置- ♀ (0 bytes) () 02/15/2012 postreply 18:37:08

• You are kidding yourself. -startover12- ♀ (0 bytes) () 02/15/2012 postreply 18:38:22

• 那你就不该结婚， 害人害己。 -密码设置- ♀ (0 bytes) () 02/15/2012 postreply 18:40:32

• What is your IQ? Attraction is not equal to Affair. -startover12- ♀ (103 bytes) () 02/15/2012 postreply 18:44:17

• 我的IQ肯定是高的，所以咱不做高技术高风险的事。IQ不够用的才以为 -密码设置- ♀ (31 bytes) () 02/15/2012 postreply 19:21:57

• It's human nature that we want to marry up, we're selfish and ca -julie116- ♀ (128 bytes) () 02/15/2012 postreply 18:17:04

• Again, D doesn't want to have a child with KK. Whatever KK -startover12- ♀ (50 bytes) () 02/15/2012 postreply 18:27:38

• 空空的版本是这么说的,你要相信你就信吧. -在座- ♀ (0 bytes) () 02/15/2012 postreply 18:32:16

• if you have your own version, I'd love to read. -startover12- ♀ (0 bytes) () 02/15/2012 postreply 18:34:17