我不写下这些,自己觉得于心不安。 因为我自己曾经也有过困境,知道人在脆弱的时候,暖心话会多么有力量。
大家看法不一,但是我认为,很多人要是拿到你手中的牌,真不一定就比你打得更好。网上每个人脾性,角度,表达方式不一样,你千万不要妄自菲薄。 可以给群众们当人生导师的机会,娱乐群众们,也是功德无量的事情。
举个例子,你写的东西,这么多细节写的这么清晰条理,很多围观群众尽管口沫飞溅,其实这一点就不一定做得到。跟你说这些,不是贬低任何人,而是你千万不要妄自菲薄。 比如我自己也来吐槽过,然后大家批评我的话,有理我就听,不合理就当耳边风。大家也有议论的权利嘛。
人生就是一个不知如何是好的过程,就是一个寻找答案的过程。 再跟你说一句我读过的,也体会很深的话: “人的认识是要时间积累的,可时间表不再自己手里。”
我知道我说的这些很虚。 具体实际的,觉得色猫(网名sansemao)说的都很好。 再具体的,我们也都不一定懂。
这里有一篇我很喜欢的演讲稿, "Personal Renewal", by John Gardner, 结尾这么说的:
A man wrote to me from Colorado saying that his 20 year-old daughter had been killed in an auto accident some weeks before and that she was carrying in her billfold a paragraph from a speech of mine. He said he was grateful because the paragraph -- and the fact that she kept it close to her -- told him something he might not otherwise have known about her values and concerns. I can't imagine where or how she came across the paragraph, but here it is:
"Meaning is not something you stumble across, like the answer to a riddle or the prize in a treasure hunt. Meaning is something you build into your life. You build it out of your own past, out of your affections and loyalties, out of the experience of humankind as it is passed on to you, out of your own talent and understanding, out of the things you believe in, out of the things and people you love, out of the values for which you are willing to sacrifice something. The ingredients are there. You are the only one who can put them together into that unique pattern that will be your life. Let it be a life that has dignity and meaning for you. If it does, then the particular balance of success or failure is of less account."
https://www.pbs.org/johngardner/sections/writings_speech_1.html