回复：以最快的速度搬出去是上上策！即使你想挽回，也要搬出去再说！

I finally got him talk to me about the reason behind it.

He has always been talking about moving to Paris since we first got together. i repeatedly I told him that if we move we should move to an English speaking place and it would be difficult for me to start all over again in a place that i cannot speak the lanaguage. we have not really talked about this lately.

so he told me this morning that we have not done anything about it although we agreed to move to another place at the very beginning. He said that he has been very unhappy now and soon he will be 50 (in 7 years) and he does not want to die at his job.

I told him that I am on board with him about the moving and i have been saving money for the early retirement. i told him that if we work for another 5 years, we will have enough money to retire. i do not know where this can get us to.