To qasze: he refers to live together rather tahn getting married

来源: LittleHer 于 2009-11-03 08:46:40 [] [旧帖] [给我悄悄话] 阅读数 : (434 bytes)

Once you get married financially it will be more complicated. The way he suggested is not a good deal for you. First it is not what you want, secondly you will end up doing a lot chores and still feeling living under somebody else's roof. Don't lower yourself for little bit free rent, you worth a lot more than that, it will only make him go above you and if you move in with him, you'll lose your opputunities for better chance.

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• 也对.不过要看个性了.有的JM还是喜欢可以依赖的感觉... -pretty_woman2- ♀ 给 pretty_woman2 发送悄悄话 pretty_woman2 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 11/03/2009 postreply 08:48:49

• I understand. The thing is, he doesn't want that with -LittleHer- ♀ 给 LittleHer 发送悄悄话 (56 bytes) () 11/03/2009 postreply 08:59:39

• And if I were you, I would like my kid to know there -LittleHer- ♀ 给 LittleHer 发送悄悄话 (89 bytes) () 11/03/2009 postreply 08:55:35

• 以咱的个性也是自己要CONTROL自己和小孩的居住环境.是可以换男人,但自己和小孩的领地不能换.这样主动权在自己手里. -pretty_woman2- ♀ 给 pretty_woman2 发送悄悄话 pretty_woman2 的博客首页 (83 bytes) () 11/03/2009 postreply 09:02:19

• Exactly, mother has to be strong so the kids can feel safe -LittleHer- ♀ 给 LittleHer 发送悄悄话 (22 bytes) () 11/03/2009 postreply 09:05:27

• 完全同意.如果没有小孩,可能就无所谓住谁的家,有小孩特别是GIRL还是自己有CONTROL对小孩比较SAFE. -pretty_woman2- ♀ 给 pretty_woman2 发送悄悄话 pretty_woman2 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 11/03/2009 postreply 09:08:38

• If I were her, I woud focus on my kid and -LittleHer- ♀ 给 LittleHer 发送悄悄话 (64 bytes) () 11/03/2009 postreply 09:14:22

• and focus on my job too of course. -LittleHer- ♀ 给 LittleHer 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 11/03/2009 postreply 09:16:02

• ME TOO.感觉她还是有不少传统的包袱...其实自己也有体会的. -pretty_woman2- ♀ 给 pretty_woman2 发送悄悄话 pretty_woman2 的博客首页 (286 bytes) () 11/03/2009 postreply 09:27:37

• 非常对。 -seanie- ♀ 给 seanie 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 11/03/2009 postreply 09:04:27

• ding! - "Don't lower yourself for little bit free rent" -Q_Bao- ♀ 给 Q_Bao 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 11/03/2009 postreply 09:44:53

• How come I didn't see she said about him wanting her to move in -温馨秋月- ♀ 给 温馨秋月 发送悄悄话 温馨秋月 的博客首页 (97 bytes) () 11/03/2009 postreply 10:19:05

• that's the best he might do for her after few years -LittleHer- ♀ 给 LittleHer 发送悄悄话 (27 bytes) () 11/03/2009 postreply 10:35:25

• 我比较理想主义 -LilyWhite- ♀ 给 LilyWhite 发送悄悄话 LilyWhite 的博客首页 (235 bytes) () 11/03/2009 postreply 11:29:54

• 我更加理想主义 -长空飞云- ♀ 给 长空飞云 发送悄悄话 长空飞云 的博客首页 (150 bytes) () 11/03/2009 postreply 11:34:25

• 是呀,所以说吗性格决定命运,换了长空MM,一二三,要么服从,要么走人...哈哈 -pretty_woman2- ♀ 给 pretty_woman2 发送悄悄话 pretty_woman2 的博客首页 (239 bytes) () 11/03/2009 postreply 12:07:49

• 哈哈，简单点能减少烦恼，益寿延年啊－－我觉得 -长空飞云- ♀ 给 长空飞云 发送悄悄话 长空飞云 的博客首页 (208 bytes) () 11/03/2009 postreply 12:17:53

• 还是MM厉害呀要学习.咱一生气喜怒哀乐都在脸上,有好几次咱GF都说咱对他太凶了..咱要检讨! -pretty_woman2- ♀ 给 pretty_woman2 发送悄悄话 pretty_woman2 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 11/03/2009 postreply 12:55:43

• DING!将来如果过不到一起了再搬出去的话,在孩子眼里就是灰溜溜的被别人 -沙发土豆- ♀ 给 沙发土豆 发送悄悄话 沙发土豆 的博客首页 (141 bytes) () 11/03/2009 postreply 13:24:11

• this man is OK. -ne0987- ♀ 给 ne0987 发送悄悄话 (255 bytes) () 11/03/2009 postreply 13:25:07

• 呵呵，这个观点很好，有意思 -长空飞云- ♀ 给 长空飞云 发送悄悄话 长空飞云 的博客首页 (119 bytes) () 11/03/2009 postreply 13:38:04

• 这个嘛，理想主义和现实主义的区别就在此。 -alazycatinsd- ♀ 给 alazycatinsd 发送悄悄话 alazycatinsd 的博客首页 (270 bytes) () 11/03/2009 postreply 14:21:28

• 理想也能存在在现实中 -lilywhite- ♀ 给 lilywhite 发送悄悄话 lilywhite 的博客首页 (461 bytes) () 11/03/2009 postreply 15:10:14

• 再婚的神仙眷侣固然有，不过肯定是不多，而且一开始 -alazycatinsd- ♀ 给 alazycatinsd 发送悄悄话 alazycatinsd 的博客首页 (632 bytes) () 11/03/2009 postreply 15:33:37

• 我们所见略同啊 :))) -gzlady- ♀ 给 gzlady 发送悄悄话 gzlady 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 11/03/2009 postreply 18:05:40

• 很同意,先从搭伙过日子一步一步地建立起来的信任.. -pretty_woman2- ♀ 给 pretty_woman2 发送悄悄话 pretty_woman2 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 11/03/2009 postreply 22:09:41

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