不太明白。

为什么你觉得他说的椅子不舒服的理由是一个借口？具体他有些什么表现使你觉得他讨厌你？是他换椅子的时候白了你一眼？还是当他看到你的时候脸色阴沉？还是他看你的眼神是厌恶的眼神？

别人在那张椅子上谈笑风生不证明什么。可能他有back problem, 选椅子特别挑剔一点。

有时候幽默也可以被用来化解一些尴尬的局面。譬如，他站起来换位置的时候，你可以开玩笑的说一句:"What have I done to you?"

如果你确定他换椅子是因为讨厌你的话，那你可以直接问他么：“I was confused when you got up and changed your seat the other day because I noticed that there was some tension in the air when you did that, I was wondering maybe there was something I said or did unintentionally that offended you in some way, I want to take this opportunity to check it out with you..."我觉得，很多时候这种事情都是因为误解而造成的，所以能够沟通就尽量沟通，这不是认错，是沟通。

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• 这个态度最有涵养：) -alazycatinsd- ♀ (47 bytes) () 04/22/2009 postreply 21:50:12

• 顶洁心JJ的话, 句句有理. -试霜- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/23/2009 postreply 11:34:26