The Look of Love ( 后记 )

I can hardly wait to hold you,

Feel my arms around you.

How long I have waited,

Waited just to love you,

Now that I have found you,

Don't ever go. (Diana Krall)

我生日前，有回他问我，“你生日想要什么东西呀？”。

想了想，我说，“我想要你写篇东西给我，什么内容、形式都行，不过要是跟我有关系的”

于是在生日前，他就给了我下面这篇东西。

“After a number of unsuccessful attempts at finding that special person, on dating sites, I had seriously begun to loose hope.

So, why I kept on going back? Out of loneliness I guess. I had nothing to loose and had free time.

I tried 3 dating sites. This is what I found out about women on dating sites (It probably applies to men as well):

Most people on Internet fall in one of these categories:

     1)      They are not ready to be in a relation. There are different reasons:

a)      Break up too recent with other relation,

b)      Emotionally fragile,

c)      Have been hurt too much,

d)      Non trusting,

e)      Issues with ex-boyfriend (ex-hu*****and) and so on…

   2) They think they want to be in a relation, but they don't. They are lying to themselves and to others   
 
   3)      They are daydreaming, wanting perfection, Mr. RIGHT have to be engineered to specification or rejected,

    4)      Only looking for a sex friend,

    5)      Only looking for an ATM machine $$$,

    6)      Looking a replica of the ex-boyfriend (ex-hu*****and),

    7)      Looking for their dad,

    8)      Only looking for one to fill the gap while still looking for someone elsewhere.

I changed the form of my profile countless times, trying to catch the attention of women with nice profiles. Maybe I was falling in the Category 3, myself.

I have a long list of expectation on my profile that an Asian woman is pointing out (on one of my dating sites account) ……”

(这后面还有不长的一段把我们怎么认识那段重新简述了一下，为免炒剩饭，就此省略）

 说真的，从那要求一出口，我就挺自以为是的认为一定会收到篇LOVE LETTER之类的东西，哈哈，没想到他硬是给写成了篇小分析论文。不过，想着有些JM可能还正在用网络寻找情缘呢，它也许还有点参考价值，他这切身体会也就当是给大家的贡献了。

感谢之余，当然我暗示、明示他，这可没有MEET我的EXPECTATION哦。他可能充分地估计了一下自己的能力，重写一篇是难度太大了，所以求其次找了篇别人写的。

于是，我的生日贺卡是有这么一段文字的。觉得深有同感，也一并与大家分享了吧。

Real love is more than beautiful flowers and sweet words, more than candlelight dinners or romantic walks in the park.

Real love is understanding through the difficult times, caring past the disagreements.

It’s laughing together when things are good or laughing together to keep from crying when things couldn’t seen to go more wrong.

Real love shows compassion and compromise…and forgives and forgives and forgives.

Real love is everything we share together. Because to me, real love is, and always will be, you.

PS，哪位JM有什么好消息了，记得也跟大家分享一下吧。

Happiness is only real when shared

 

所有跟帖： 

• 椅子 haha -橄榄树1- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/18/2009 postreply 15:40:45

• MM真好, 把沙发留给大家. :) -longhair- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/18/2009 postreply 15:58:42

• I like this one,thank you for sharing! -happynomad- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/18/2009 postreply 15:49:54

• Thank you. Hopefully, it helps a litt bit .... :) -longhair- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/18/2009 postreply 16:01:40

• 谢谢ADA猫..很好奇你是不是我们小朋友最喜欢的那只猫呢. :) -longhair- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/19/2009 postreply 11:38:03

• 那张生日贺卡得有多大才能容纳这么多的words啊，仍然思考中...:-))) -檀香橄榄- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/19/2009 postreply 23:06:44

• hehe...是印在上面的, 不是他写上去的. :))) -longhair- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/20/2009 postreply 06:30:31