I am 99% sure if you find someone else, things will be much much worse. Because after your divorce you will have to pay money to raise your kids. Raising kids are one of the most expensive things in this world. Let's say $800 on the kids per month (very easily, you can rent two rooms out if you don't have kids, right?). Let's say the investment return is 10% per year, the money will accumulate to half million after 20 years :) And if the kids live with you and your future wife, usually things will get even worse. Your future wife really needs to love you unconditionally and sacrifice a lot to tolerate the loss on big money and unpeaceful life because it's never easy to deal with step-children, even in western world.