I know. This is not what I want and that's why I said I prefer to be his friend or sister, not as his wife like this and nobody knows how I felt.
But he does not see why, because he does not have the need/drive, so he believes I should not either(he is very 大男子主义), "升华了" is his excuses. He does not even give a try that's why I said " 他真的从未想过婚姻,事业,家庭都是需要经营的".