When you are critical of yourself,

 

you feel secure.

In your childhood, there might be someone (like your parents) who was critical.  You developed a reflex of being critical toward yourself in order to gain approval from that person thus feeling secure.

 

 

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• 我父母是典型东亚父母，比较critical.但是我并不感觉舒服啊，感觉无助和虚弱。 -DoraDora2008- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/30/2024 postreply 19:20:16

• One can feel powerless but secure. -One1618- ♂ (379 bytes) () 04/30/2024 postreply 19:49:44

• 我对别人挺宽容的，对自己还是比较苛刻吧 -DoraDora2008- ♀ (0 bytes) () 04/30/2024 postreply 21:24:32