RE: Dating problem

How often do you meet a guy that has the general qualities you are looking for, but you just don’t like the way he looks?  And this is not because he is ugly-looking.  It is just that his looks is not your type.  For example, the guy is really skinny, and you don’t like skinny men. 

The problem with online dating is that the pictures are usually not very accurate of the real person.  You spend quite some time before meeting the person, but then you find out that you just don’t like the way he looks. 

And am I being picky in focusing on how I feel about the person’s looks?  I have told myself to hang out with the guy one more time, since the guy seems to be decent.  And I have tried.  But then I realize that I just don’t feel comfortable with the person, so I don’t want to waste his time down the road.

Also, I am not looking for handsome men.  It is just that men with certain looks don’t make me comfortable.  Am I being stupid in using the looks to reject a man?

Of course, usually when this happens, there is something else about the man that bothers me. 

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• No, you are not stupid. You definitely need feel comfortable wit -云燕假日- ♀ (0 bytes) () 02/07/2011 postreply 09:12:01

• I have same feelings about the guy's look. I think that you have -happydogmom- ♀ (88 bytes) () 02/07/2011 postreply 09:36:54

• 能理解， -爱上网- ♀ (0 bytes) () 02/07/2011 postreply 09:45:32

• 好令人羡慕啊 -MAI兜儿- ♀ (23 bytes) () 02/07/2011 postreply 09:46:56

• 回复：好令人羡慕啊 -joeyli- ♀ (646 bytes) () 02/07/2011 postreply 10:08:44

• 有 -MAI兜儿- ♀ (126 bytes) () 02/07/2011 postreply 10:29:14

• We have an art major -majorindulgence- ♀ (85 bytes) () 02/07/2011 postreply 10:30:05

• It's human nature. -Surprisedbyjoy- ♀ (182 bytes) () 02/07/2011 postreply 11:56:29

• 宁缺勿滥，如果长相那么重要，就继续找。会找到让你称心如意的。没有化学反应的 -sansemao- ♀ (53 bytes) () 02/07/2011 postreply 12:04:52

• 我个人认为不是每个人都可以ONLINE DATING的. -pretty_woman2- ♀ (272 bytes) () 02/07/2011 postreply 12:17:15

• 说得太对了！不光是长相，还包括说话方式、语气、举止、眼神，甚至体味等等是一个整体的感觉。 -云燕假日- ♀ (0 bytes) () 02/07/2011 postreply 12:59:11

• 很其实很不一样的,很难用硬件来衡量,不少传统看起来硬件不咋的人,很有个人魅力,与他们在一起很开心. -pretty_woman2- ♀ (137 bytes) () 02/07/2011 postreply 14:27:22

• 不是有人说了么，见面要从速，不要再网上浪费时间，对上演后再慢慢发展感情。 -movingmountain- ♀ (0 bytes) () 02/07/2011 postreply 15:01:30