If your parents relationship is good and they treat you well during grow up, your guts on in-security is correct. He can't provide the secured emotion you deserve.
However if you grew up in a bad relationship with parents, your guts on him may be twistted because of the un-healed wounds in your heart. You got to heal yourself first.
Since I don't know more details, I don't know which books are good for you. You can google ...
Generally speaking: "Men are from Mars and women are from Venus " is good.
" Think like a man and act like a woman" is good as well