100% agree. Be nice first. Respect yourself and others first.

Attitude comes first, then communication skills. When you respect yourself, you will do the right things and stick to your principles, such as be fair and work hard yourself to earn what you want. Then you know what you have, what you want, and what you are willing to give up to earn what you want. Anything beyond your means or your willingness to give up is a stop sign. Stop means stop.

When you respect others, you will respect his decisions, even though you may not like his decisions. He is an independent person. This is no law saying that he has to do things to please you. He will please you only when he is willing to do it.

In a relationship (work or personal), it is important to find out what he has, what he wants, and what he is willing to give up for this relationship. It is easier to deal with a man when he is compatible with you. In other words, if what you want is what he is able and willing to give (it is his will, not pushed by you), and what he wants is what you are willing to give (it is your will, not pushed by him or by the context), then it is a good and lasting relationship.

温馨秋月, thanks for your posts. I learned a lot from you and other wise sisters in KT.

BTW, yishu's novels are good for girls.

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