回复：请大家帮我出出主意, 如何和孩子谈离婚的事?

1. 该不该现在告诉他我们正在离婚;-- yes. better to have both you and your lg tell him together.
2. 该不该告诉他我们为什么离婚. 是因为他爸爸出轨, 把妈妈辛苦赚来的钱花在别的女人身上, 妈妈受到很大的伤害,不得不离婚.-- No.
3. 如何和孩子谈离婚的事? 不知道如何开口, 要谈些什么,重大点有哪几点? -- 10 yrs old understand what is divorce. tell him the fact, and regardless of what, you love him. And it is not his fault.
4. 怎么阻止LG抹黑我的言行? 还是听之任之. -- I believe action speaks louder. Kids are smart enough to know and to tell. Love your son, and treat him as before.
5. 如何消除他的言行在儿子心中造成的负面影响? -- again, action speaks louder. you did a good job so far by not put any negative comments about his father. It is not easy, but it is best for your son.

2 things to keep in mind:
a. from your post:昨天我妈告诉我, 当她给儿子说, 爸爸不要妈妈了. I would tell my mom, not to say such thing to my child. it does not help the current situation, yet hurt a son's feeling about his father.

b. Talk to school, ask for school psychologist or school counseling service. They will not tell kid, but will keep a close watch for you when he is at school.

Bless.

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• 谢谢! 好象和书上说的一样. 有个例子证明这样做的结果很好就好了. -2d_not2d- ♀ (169 bytes) () 10/06/2009 postreply 17:47:53

• 抱抱~~ -胡桃架子-- ♀ (94 bytes) () 10/06/2009 postreply 18:09:30

• 是啊, 我也是怕告诉儿子, 会影响他的心理和将来的生活. -2d_not2d- ♀ (257 bytes) () 10/06/2009 postreply 18:36:15

• 上面胡桃说得都很好了. -Black*tulip- ♀ (274 bytes) () 10/06/2009 postreply 18:52:16

• 谢谢! 找心理医生咨询是个好建议, 还真没想到. -2d_not2d- ♀ (0 bytes) () 10/06/2009 postreply 18:54:47

• 不用谢. 都是过来人, 理解你的感受. -Black*tulip- ♀ (0 bytes) () 10/06/2009 postreply 19:00:45

• 理解 -胡桃架子-- ♀ (587 bytes) () 10/06/2009 postreply 19:29:37

• 孩子爸很defensive,和他谈话很艰难. 照你说的去试试吧. -2d_not2d- ♀ (21 bytes) () 10/06/2009 postreply 19:38:35

• 孩子爸爸has already confused孩子 -huangshang- ♀ (0 bytes) () 10/11/2009 postreply 10:43:19