How to bounce back from a crappy situation?
Sometimes, you feel so great at work. You are on a winning streak. You nail a hard project before deadline, ace an important presentation and your poker-face boss suddenly gives you a big brotherly pat on the back to show his great appreciation. When you are leaving for home and thinking things couldn’t get any better, in the elevator, you somehow get into a lighthearted chitchat with that pretty girl whom you usually wouldn’t have the nerve to hit on. Before you guys depart in the parking lot, she gives you her number. You call it a lucky day.
Confidence momentum can work in reverse. When this happens, it can erode your self-assurance. Have a fight with your girlfriend before you leave for work in the morning; be picked on by co-workers; Lose an important document or make a blunder in your presentation at a across group meeting, etc. Any of these, if not dealt well, will trigger a major breakdown on your confidence.
Getting chewed out by your boss at work can be the worst. It makes you feel terrible and put you in a down mood at once. After that, it is easy to look at things in a negative way. When you send out this unpleasant vibe, people will try to avoid you and you are prone to tumble into more troubles. The trick is to stop this negativity as soon as possible before you launch into a downward spiral.
Some tips to cheer you up and get you recharged
1. Vent your complaints
Of course, we all need vent from time to time. That is what friends are for. Call a good friend and talk it out. But when the *****ing session is over, swear off the subject. If you keep going over it, it is harder for you to move on. And your friend will also be pissed off by your endless whining. And you will find it is harder to harder to find someone to dump trash next time.
2. Divert your attention
It is crucial not to dwell on the bad things that happened. Divert your attention to something you usually like to do to break the cycle of negativity. You can hit the gym or take a couple of days off the work or go shopping or simply have a nice cup of coffee to have you calm down first to start with. Anyway, do whatever works for you.
Last time, when I made a stupid mistake at my work and got chewed up a bit, I felt very blue and embarrassed. After self-blaming for a while, I went to a salon to get myself pampered with a pedicure and foot message during my lunch break instead. In the bubbling warm water, I felt so relaxed and relieved. Afterwards, those sassily painted toenails sure put a big smile on my face. And that stupid mistake I made? It had been forgotten somewhere on my way back to the company.
In my own opinion, among all the above options, shopping probably is the best anti-depressant you can ever have as long as you don’t max out your credit cards or become shopalcoholic. Shopping makes you realize the true meaning of hard working. Shopping - especially a shopping spree, makes you feel slave away in that tiny cube all days worthwhile. Shopping makes you understand better why you have to put up with all those craps at work and more willingly go back to face them.
3. Learn your lesson
Once you bounce back from the bad mood, you need to rethink what you’ve done dragged you into the bad situation initially and how to avoid it from happening in the future.
The stupid mistake I made at my work was that I got confused by the time zone and all the reports generated had the wrong time range, which had to be redone all over again. My lesson from it is to be careful and ban myself from Wenxuecity surfing while I am working on the important tasks.
That is my tips and experience about how to get over a bad situation and get myself back on track. Would like to hear your add-ons and stories.
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My “little damage” today: )
Guess watch, Guess satchel , a flowery party clutch, a pair of high heel sandals
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