回复：How much arguement is too much? (图)

来源: lilac09 于 2009-11-30 21:41:15 [] [博客] [旧帖] [给我悄悄话] 阅读数 : (1037 bytes)
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I don’t believe couples can live together without arguments, which must be boring to death or their relationship is already dead. But if the blow-up happens every day, it is not a good sign either. 2 or 3 times week is quite normal and healthy. Arguments can also be a good way to take off what is loaded heavily on our mind the same way we go to gym to burn out that extra energy. We don’t want our feelings backed up inside to the exploding point, some sort of emotional constipation. ;)

Constructive arguments from time to time can spice up your life, make it interesting and enhance the mutual understanding. For me, “constructive argument” means not to argue over trivia, not to repeat the same issue, stick to the current problem (don’t go way back into the history), and think "we" instead of that little “me”. So you two can find what’s in your heart to make compromise. Isn’t relationship a process of fighting and compromising? Most times, there is no black or white, no right or wrong, just gray areas.

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• I don't know what emotional constipation is, but -tigersclaws- ♂ 给 tigersclaws 发送悄悄话 tigersclaws 的博客首页 (49 bytes) () 11/30/2009 postreply 21:56:06

• 嗯，then you start to write sonnets for 鹰妹 :) -lilac09- ♀ 给 lilac09 发送悄悄话 lilac09 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 11/30/2009 postreply 23:43:50

• 哈哈哈, now you know why it took me a long time to write a -tigersclaws- ♂ 给 tigersclaws 发送悄悄话 tigersclaws 的博客首页 (7 bytes) () 12/01/2009 postreply 08:10:24

• how about a 儿歌? -23731241- ♂ 给 23731241 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 12/01/2009 postreply 08:49:09

• 儿歌's the product when he has a diarrhea. 平均是16年1泻. -戏雨飞鹰- ♀ 给 戏雨飞鹰 发送悄悄话 戏雨飞鹰 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 12/01/2009 postreply 09:03:58

• LOOKS LIKE 儿歌 比 SONNET 更难得 -23731241- ♂ 给 23731241 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 12/01/2009 postreply 09:09:07

• yeah, after the diarrhea, the lethargy makes him take -戏雨飞鹰- ♀ 给 戏雨飞鹰 发送悄悄话 戏雨飞鹰 的博客首页 (29 bytes) () 12/01/2009 postreply 09:20:35

• BEING PRODUCTIVE NEED 好的身体。JUST别忘了WORK OUT -23731241- ♂ 给 23731241 发送悄悄话 (0 bytes) () 12/01/2009 postreply 09:37:01

• ask Lilac -梅石莹玉- ♀ 给 梅石莹玉 发送悄悄话 梅石莹玉 的博客首页 (151 bytes) () 12/01/2009 postreply 09:41:16

• 回复：ask Lilac -lilac09- ♀ 给 lilac09 发送悄悄话 lilac09 的博客首页 (77 bytes) () 12/01/2009 postreply 10:47:47

• 回复：回复：How much arguement is too much? (图) -梅石莹玉- ♀ 给 梅石莹玉 发送悄悄话 梅石莹玉 的博客首页 (224 bytes) () 12/01/2009 postreply 06:33:54

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