APAD: All truths are not to be told.

All truths are not to be told.

This proverb means that sometimes it is better not to reveal the truth, especially if it may hurt someone’s feelings or cause harm. It implies that discretion is the better part of valor.

Is there a truth which must never be spoken?

Yes, a man should never say what he really think of your wife, if that thing is not flattering. If you do, your universe could quickly become cluttered with unidentified flying objects.

That is not to say you lie to your wife. You never do that. But if you must say something, do so respectfully giving room for her self esteem.

Nothing is more fragile than a person’s self esteem and few things can do more damage quicker than a thoughtless comment.

Women, the same thing goes the other way as well. Men’s self esteem is just as fragile but men are far more obtuse when it comes to emotions. Men need wiggle room to climb back on their delusional pedestal just as women need their emotional landscape to be fortified with self-assurance in what is for them a far more dangerous world than men can generally even think about never mind understand.

 You can be brutally honest (your version) or be honestly giving and supportive. One road leads to mental hell and self replicating anguish and the other leads to mental and emotional health, wealth and stability.

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ha, 2Tell or not 2Tell, anotherShakespeare Q ;-) & a tough 1 -最西边的岛上- 给 最西边的岛上 发送悄悄话 最西边的岛上 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 12/27/2024 postreply 05:42:30

wish have had said "love U" more 2Mom&Dad when theyWereAlive -最西边的岛上- 给 最西边的岛上 发送悄悄话 最西边的岛上 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 12/27/2024 postreply 07:10:58

it's a truth not being told enough due2 culture IMHO -最西边的岛上- 给 最西边的岛上 发送悄悄话 最西边的岛上 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 12/27/2024 postreply 07:11:28

men kiss wives goodbye've longer life expectancy -移花接木- 给 移花接木 发送悄悄话 移花接木 的博客首页 (378 bytes) () 12/27/2024 postreply 07:35:04

guess the same effect hugging/kissing cats/dogs -最西边的岛上- 给 最西边的岛上 发送悄悄话 最西边的岛上 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 12/27/2024 postreply 07:42:06

Maturity means a robust or an anti-fragile self-esteem :-) -7grizzly- 给 7grizzly 发送悄悄话 7grizzly 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 12/27/2024 postreply 07:54:36

I still feel myself not well done, more than medium the best -移花接木- 给 移花接木 发送悄悄话 移花接木 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 12/27/2024 postreply 14:12:10

Truth hurts, and that's why people like white lies:-) -暖冬cool夏- 给 暖冬cool夏 发送悄悄话 暖冬cool夏 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 12/27/2024 postreply 10:49:12

to use them as the band-aids ;-) -最西边的岛上- 给 最西边的岛上 发送悄悄话 最西边的岛上 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 12/27/2024 postreply 12:07:09

Great word! Band-aid can‘t stop the bleeding, esp. the inner -暖冬cool夏- 给 暖冬cool夏 发送悄悄话 暖冬cool夏 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 12/27/2024 postreply 13:41:12

总是瞎说大实话是低情商的表现 -移花接木- 给 移花接木 发送悄悄话 移花接木 的博客首页 (0 bytes) () 12/27/2024 postreply 14:12:48

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